"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What would you do?

blinkwatt

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A couple of friends of mine are going out at work,ones a good friend and I know his girlfreind,not as good of friends as we are though. He talks to her about getting married and such I think they are starting to get seriuos since she is almost 18(Yes,I know, they are stupid). The problem I have is he is an idiot,he says he wants to marry her and then we(he and I) go out and we end up at other chicks houses(we didnt nail them though,they backed out). He was talking about how he wanted to nail them on the way there and such. Here is were I'm stuck, he is semi-abusive at times to her,he has told me how when they have an argument and he doesnt get his way he will yank her by her shirt and not let her leave. I tell him that he should get his priorities straight,he wants to marry a cute,nice,smart and funny girl,but yet he out hitting on skanks non-stop. He always wants me to talk to women with him as his wing man,but I no longer want to. I'am starting to feel bad for his girlfriend(my friend) and people are starting to catch on as he was caught fooling around with another chick at work. What would you do? Say nothing(I havent even hinted to his girlfriend)? People who know him are starting to come up and ask me questions(They are catching on),do I let them know the truth? I cant let this chick get hurt BAD,as in get married to this moron. I'm not going to try and hit on this chick or anything,its just sad because he is her first boyfriend.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't get involved in other people's problems.

If you don't like the way your friend is acting then don't be his friend - thats the only choice you should be deciding.
 

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flexion_ said:
If you don't like the way your friend is acting then don't be his friend - thats the only choice you should be deciding.
Thats the answer I'm looking for. Thanks!
 

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I would get involved.....

HE is being a d!ck. I would talk to her about it....If shes a friend you have to do what you feel is right.

Yes you may lose the other guy as a friend in the process but i doubt it. It sounds like he needs you more than you need him. I would step in.....

Tell her....if she chooses to ignore your advice at least you know you tried to tell her and its her problem. At least she will know all the facts.


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