parkthebus
Master Don Juan
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I haven't really got one to speak of. The only people I know just want to go out drinking.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What would you do to build a social life from scratch?
- Thread starter parkthebus
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'd use a place called "city data forums", among others, to connect with people in your area.I'd go to meets of people who are "into "any sort of hobby that interests you and look around. I'd run a classified ad on craigslist and I'd check out any ads any there that interested me. I'd go hang out at the college libraries, but also improve myself, gym, karate classes, dancing lessons, learn to play music, swim, surf, skateboard, off-road motorcycling. Race tracks are good places to meet women, maybe not YOUR kind of women, tho. Ball games, too
daddymonsterpoodle
Master Don Juan
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Have a life. Do stuff you are interested in and connect with other people who are interested in it. Shortcut: find a Texas hold'em league, dance class, yoga class or quiz night at your local bar, and take it from there.