What would you do here?

[captain55]

So I finally managed to sleep with this chick I've been chasing for a while. We have hooked up twice, thursday night and yesterday... she is in her early 20's. Yesterday the condom broke and she starts freaking out and is on the phone crying to planned parenthood asking the nurse questions about her chances of getting pregnant since she's off the pill.

I knew she was neurotic when I asked her to go to the movies with me months ago and she refused because she was afraid of mass shootings.

She is insisting that I "go get tested" before I can hit it raw and said "show me your test results and then we can talk but you have to promise to always pull out since I don't want to go on the pill"......then insisted that I buy her something nice for the stress I put her through for deciding to experiment with ultra thin condoms for the first time with her. Of course I didn't buy her anything but I legitimately laughed because I found it funny this 22 year old was trying to make demands.

I don't mind getting tested if it gives her peace of mind and we can enjoy great hot sex together stress free, but is it worth the time? I don't want to shell out 100 bucks and take off work for this ****. Especially if she's gonna get neurotic over something else.

she smokes a lot of weed and is big into xanax...major anxiety issues. But the sex is great

 

[marmel75]

Lol...dude seriously?

 

[wifehunter]

 

[oldmanofthesea]

she smokes a lot of weed and is big into xanax...major anxiety issues. But the sex is great

That seems to be the pattern from my personal experience and that of friends.

I wouldn't cave to her demands but honestly if you haven't had an STD test in a while, it's not a bad idea, but she should get one too - it should be mutual. I also wouldn't trust her not to be having unprotected sex with other dudes so really there isn't much peace of mind for you.... maybe just a bit lower risk.

 

[old_skoolr]

Get the test, make sure shes not pregnant...

THEN RUN!!!!!!

 

[Dingo]

Marry her...

 

[captain55]

The thing is guys shes only 22. She’s educated, beautiful, good family. Just major anxiety issues. Obviously if she was 27 I wouldn’t give her the time of day but should I cut her some slack because of her age? Maybe she grows out of it? I think she already is starting to see me as a bf and seems like she is getting attached.

 

[Tilex]

If the sex is good and you enjoy each other's company then go for it.

Both of you should go to the clinic together an get tested at the same time.
It doesn't make sense for one to go and not the other.
You can make it an enjoyable & unconventional date!


And by the way, anxiety is very common among young folks.
Don't make such a big deal out of what meds she takes.
I have a theory about people with anxiety because I've dealt with this issue all throughout my 20's.
People with anxiety typically have higher than normal sex drives.
Erratic hormones is the main cause of it.

 

[sazc]

The thing is guys shes only 22. She’s educated, beautiful, good family. Just major anxiety issues. Obviously if she was 27 I wouldn’t give her the time of day but should I cut her some slack because of her age? Maybe she grows out of it? I think she already is starting to see me as a bf and seems like she is getting attached.

this IS who she is. you're not going to change her and she's not going to change unless she is actively trying to get help (therapy, etc)

this is going to be DRAMA and you might get her pregs accidentally not using birth comtrol