"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What would you do here?

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I had this girl that I was mostly friends with. We never had sex, but came close a couple of times. I got sick of wasting my time, so I mostly cut her off. I had my phone number changed (nothing to do with her, it was some other girl and she knew that), but I didn't give her the new number. I also stopped hanging out with her. I did continue to exchange email with her at first.
She of course didn't like losing my attention and she got pissed. She started sending me these bit-chi emails, so I told her to knock it off. Then her next email was even more out there, and I felt like I had enough of her she-ite. So I sent her something along the lines of "the only way you are going to get my attention now is if you act like a filthy, dirty ho-wore." !!!! I just wanted to be rid of her at this point and I assumed that type of message would do the trick. Well, it didn't...she has been emailing me 3-4x a week ever since. But the emails are not about sex, they are still angry type emails or innocuous type emails. For the most part I ignore them, but I got one a few days ago that said:
do you know anyone looking for weed?
I responded a couple of days later:
do you know anyone looking to suck de-ick?

That one got a rise out of her!!! Is it feigned anger or what? I can't figure it out.

Should I bother wasting more time with this brood? What should I do, get together with her and try putting the moves on her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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That's why emails have a block list, Use it.
 

MisterD

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Even by giving her negative responses, they're responses nonetheless and thus feeding her ego. The only way to kill an ego is through apathy. Negative reactions are still reactions. I would ignore her if I really was done with her and there was no potential of hooking up.
 

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Well, I think there is potential...it's just- how much effort do I want to put in? Maybe I answered my own question, I'll give this one more shot. Two hangouts and then if it doesn't happen I pull the plug for good.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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