"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What would you do here?

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I had this girl that I was mostly friends with. We never had sex, but came close a couple of times. I got sick of wasting my time, so I mostly cut her off. I had my phone number changed (nothing to do with her, it was some other girl and she knew that), but I didn't give her the new number. I also stopped hanging out with her. I did continue to exchange email with her at first.
She of course didn't like losing my attention and she got pissed. She started sending me these bit-chi emails, so I told her to knock it off. Then her next email was even more out there, and I felt like I had enough of her she-ite. So I sent her something along the lines of "the only way you are going to get my attention now is if you act like a filthy, dirty ho-wore." !!!! I just wanted to be rid of her at this point and I assumed that type of message would do the trick. Well, it didn't...she has been emailing me 3-4x a week ever since. But the emails are not about sex, they are still angry type emails or innocuous type emails. For the most part I ignore them, but I got one a few days ago that said:
do you know anyone looking for weed?
I responded a couple of days later:
do you know anyone looking to suck de-ick?

That one got a rise out of her!!! Is it feigned anger or what? I can't figure it out.

Should I bother wasting more time with this brood? What should I do, get together with her and try putting the moves on her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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That's why emails have a block list, Use it.
 

MisterD

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Even by giving her negative responses, they're responses nonetheless and thus feeding her ego. The only way to kill an ego is through apathy. Negative reactions are still reactions. I would ignore her if I really was done with her and there was no potential of hooking up.
 

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Well, I think there is potential...it's just- how much effort do I want to put in? Maybe I answered my own question, I'll give this one more shot. Two hangouts and then if it doesn't happen I pull the plug for good.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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