"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What would you change about SoSuave?

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I'm finishing up development on a project I've been working on for the past year and a half, and seeing as how I like to keep myself busy with new programming projects, I'm considering making my next project a self-improvement website. This would be a bit like SoSuave, but the focus would be on self-improvement for males, instead of focusing on women. I feel that's one of SoSuave's biggest issues. It focuses too much on how to game women, instead of how to improve yourself.

The homepage would be akin to a blog, with articles and videos on everything related to self-improvement. There would of course be a forum, with the main difference being, there would only be one section dedicated to the discussion of game. This does not mean there would be one place for everything game. Just one main forum section, with a few subcategories for different things like field reports, tips, questions, etc.

So, with this said, what would you like to see on SoSuave 2.0 (obviously, not what I'm calling it)? What should remain the same? What would you change?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Less KJs, more FR/LR, better grammar, and no trolls

- comic_relief
 

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Sosuave is a vbulletin forum. Most web forums are. So when you see other similar web forums that are a little different, it's just their vbulletin settings. All of those changes should be easy to make.

The getting logged out thing is fairly new. After a few minutes of not clicking anything, like while writing a post, sosuave logs you out automatically. It's only been that way for a short time. I also get logged out automatically if I shut off my Internet connection. That is an even newer and more annoying feature Maybe it has to do with Google ads. Whatever I look at on Amazon will be my sosuave ads.

What's the best sosuave ad blocker for Firefox? I am trying to cut down on data usage, so I have an image blocking add-on. But I can still see it transferring the ad data back and forth; I'm not sure if it helps for data usage.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There should be an audio book for the DJ Bible so I can listen to it in the car and as I sleep at night.
 

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SeymourCake said:
There should be an audio book for the DJ Bible so I can listen to it in the car and as I sleep at night.
That's a good idea. The DJ Bible (DJB) is too long to read. Audio files of someone reading the key DJB posts would be a great resource. Keep the written posts, but maybe have downloadable audio files.

Off topic, I noticed that my IM mailbox storage has grown from 75 to 100. Thank you to whoever did that. I keep useful IMs in storage almost like printing out key posts. More IM storage is always appreciated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Colossus said:
I'd change the mods. They suck so bad :cuss:
^This. :D I've been on other forums and some of the mods are too over bearing, nit picking little things. I like how this forum seems loose and relaxed, kind of like how I like my women.....hardy har hah. For a while I thought it was starting to shift in the other direction.

SeymourCake said:
There should be an audio book for the DJ Bible so I can listen to it in the car and as I sleep at night.
Only Seymour, lol. This is a good idea though. It would obviously take some time, and couldn't use all of the posts, but it could be done. SS could bundle it up and sell it. If the price was reasonable, I'd buy it.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Sosuave is a vbulletin forum. Most web forums are. So when you see other similar web forums that are a little different, it's just their vbulletin settings. All of those changes should be easy to make.

The getting logged out thing is fairly new. After a few minutes of not clicking anything, like while writing a post, sosuave logs you out automatically. It's only been that way for a short time. I also get logged out automatically if I shut off my Internet connection. That is an even newer and more annoying feature Maybe it has to do with Google ads. Whatever I look at on Amazon will be my sosuave ads.

What's the best sosuave ad blocker for Firefox? I am trying to cut down on data usage, so I have an image blocking add-on. But I can still see it transferring the ad data back and forth; I'm not sure if it helps for data usage.
Regarding the vbulletin thing: I know. Certain changes would be easy to make using vbulletin, but I'm thinking if I do this, it will be all custom. That way, I can make it exactly as I want. As for the logging out issues, I've noticed them. I don't post enough for it to bother me, though, I'll make sure it isn't an issue.
backseatjuan said:
interactive self improvement journal. pimp CB, where aspiring DJs talk live online with their fellow DJs
How exactly would a journal be interactive?
The CB (assuming you mean chatbox) is a good idea though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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