Walden
Master Don Juan
Discovery of a vestigial penis.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What would make you immediately dump a girl?
- Thread starter RKTek
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
hitop
Senior Don Juan
My absolute non-negotiable and cause for immediate dumping:
If she declares or If I find out in a round-about way, that she has a lot of guy friends. No, nada, aint happenin no way. Been there done that. For all you young aspiring DJ's out there pay heed to this one, beware the sea hag who require the attention of many men.
If she declares or If I find out in a round-about way, that she has a lot of guy friends. No, nada, aint happenin no way. Been there done that. For all you young aspiring DJ's out there pay heed to this one, beware the sea hag who require the attention of many men.
princelydeeds
Master Don Juan
My number one pet peeve in all the world is a selfish inconsiderate chick. Any chick that asks me for things that she knows she wouldn't be willing to give me in return. Chicks who make a habit of not doing things they say they are gonna do are nexted quickly.
Women with low sex drive are also a no no for me. Chicks who use sex as a treat, i.e "if you take me to see X movie Ill give you sum" or "I don't feel like having sex im depressed cause Ive got a bill due and I can't afford to pay it." B!tch get a job!!!! I especially hate women with Goodwill budgets and Prada taste!!
I don't like dating chicks with kids, but on the occasion that I do, women who don't discipline their kids or who ask you to take them and their kids out or ask you to buy things for their kids!
Women with low sex drive are also a no no for me. Chicks who use sex as a treat, i.e "if you take me to see X movie Ill give you sum" or "I don't feel like having sex im depressed cause Ive got a bill due and I can't afford to pay it." B!tch get a job!!!! I especially hate women with Goodwill budgets and Prada taste!!
I don't like dating chicks with kids, but on the occasion that I do, women who don't discipline their kids or who ask you to take them and their kids out or ask you to buy things for their kids!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
-drug use
-cheating
-incredibly disgusting past (she was a 'ho') but now says she's changed
-lying
-No desire for kinky sex
Btw, what exactly is physical abuse from a woman? Beating me up, and throwing me around when I don't do the dishes ?
-cheating
-incredibly disgusting past (she was a 'ho') but now says she's changed
-lying
-No desire for kinky sex
Btw, what exactly is physical abuse from a woman? Beating me up, and throwing me around when I don't do the dishes ?
K-Daddy
Don Juan
Haha, guys, what would you think about one like this?
Divorced once
Had at least two live-in boyfriends
Smokes
Drinks all the time
Tattoo
Tongue ring
Lives by herself supporting her younger brother
Had AOL account "broken into" by angry ex who sent out 100+ viruses from it
Had her vehicle stolen from a DIFFERENT angry ex
...all by the time she's 20.
Dunno of any cheating past, and the tattoo and tongue ring aren't too bad...but sheesh. This girl was my oneitis for the longest time, and just now I'm starting to get back into the game. She's a great girl, but I cringe when I think that I wasted my time on all this. It sucks that we waste our time on such troublesome girls when there are so many normal (or should I say less-non-normal) and hotter chicks out there.
Anyway, for my list, aside from the other things up there, I agree with the cheating, lying, paying no attention, being *****y stuff. You guys have covered it pretty well.
Divorced once
Had at least two live-in boyfriends
Smokes
Drinks all the time
Tattoo
Tongue ring
Lives by herself supporting her younger brother
Had AOL account "broken into" by angry ex who sent out 100+ viruses from it
Had her vehicle stolen from a DIFFERENT angry ex
...all by the time she's 20.
Dunno of any cheating past, and the tattoo and tongue ring aren't too bad...but sheesh. This girl was my oneitis for the longest time, and just now I'm starting to get back into the game. She's a great girl, but I cringe when I think that I wasted my time on all this. It sucks that we waste our time on such troublesome girls when there are so many normal (or should I say less-non-normal) and hotter chicks out there.
Anyway, for my list, aside from the other things up there, I agree with the cheating, lying, paying no attention, being *****y stuff. You guys have covered it pretty well.
trajhenkhet
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I agree with hitop and princlydeeds. Dating is fine with these ladies as long as you put all your important stuff first before them. Remember, women need to earn your time. Look at their character and proceed accordingly
Matt ala Casanova
Master Don Juan
-cheating
-incredibly disgusting past (she was a 'ho') but now says she's changed
-lying
-physically violent
-STD (herpes, syphillis, ghonorrhea, AIDS, or any other yucky body stuff)
-poor hygeine (mouth, body, body odor)
Those are the only things that would get me.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Lying is bad, very bad in a relationship
Cheating can very much mean the end
Physically violent means bye bye
Tattoos don't bother me, as long as they don't occupy 10+% of her body
Drug use... well I did drugs in my life so I can understand, but she has to be on her way to stop those
Known VDs is definitely a red flag; my health is far more important than whatever love or connection I could have w/ a woman.
Cheating can very much mean the end
Physically violent means bye bye
Tattoos don't bother me, as long as they don't occupy 10+% of her body
Drug use... well I did drugs in my life so I can understand, but she has to be on her way to stop those
Known VDs is definitely a red flag; my health is far more important than whatever love or connection I could have w/ a woman.
Whatever.
Alcohol, marijuana, and nicotine are all fine (I'm no hypocrite).
Coke, crack, H, and basically any needle drugs are UNACCEPTABLE.
Whatever.
Who cares. They all have a "past" to some extent.
Whatever, but I've found that lesbians/bisexuals have much deeper issues that inevitably become serious problems.
Again, I'm no hypocrite, so this is ok.
Yeah, this is bad, but try finding a girl who doesn't lie...
If you can't handle yourself against some chick, you've got other problems.
Whatever, but there are certain things I won't do.
Are you serious? These are all NEXTable offenses without even having to think about it.
Whatever.
Looking at all of these, the one that scares me the most would be:
-incredibly disgusting past (she was a 'ho') but now says she's changed
because that leads to:
-STD (herpes, syphillis, ghonorrhea, AIDS, or any other yucky body stuff)
I have actually NEXTed girls before I had even given them a chance to exactly what was going based on hearsay from a couple of my friends about her past...
How exactly do you approach a girl and ask her this? Or do you get her tested and see the results before you start anything? I can think of countless times where I really REALLY was feeling a girl who was down to do stuff but I couldn't do it (even with a condom) for fear of catching something... simply because women aren't my LIFE... I have a lot to live for (personal, educational, professional goals), and to have some of it shaven off, or to live with a disease just because you weren't careful scares the living **** outta me. What do you guys do?
-incredibly disgusting past (she was a 'ho') but now says she's changed
because that leads to:
-STD (herpes, syphillis, ghonorrhea, AIDS, or any other yucky body stuff)
I have actually NEXTed girls before I had even given them a chance to exactly what was going based on hearsay from a couple of my friends about her past...
How exactly do you approach a girl and ask her this? Or do you get her tested and see the results before you start anything? I can think of countless times where I really REALLY was feeling a girl who was down to do stuff but I couldn't do it (even with a condom) for fear of catching something... simply because women aren't my LIFE... I have a lot to live for (personal, educational, professional goals), and to have some of it shaven off, or to live with a disease just because you weren't careful scares the living **** outta me. What do you guys do?
Livingitup22
Don Juan
Things like poor appearance, tattoos, piercings, smoking etc. should be obvious to you LONG before the sixty day mark. STD's are a definite turn-off but how exactly are you going to know? Because she told you? Well, under this scenario, you've already tagged her a couple of times, so unless your demanding some negative test results, you're probably going to remain in the dark.....
So I'm dating a hot woman for two months, enjoying the sex, and probably beginning to think about an LTR. What would convince me to dump her immediately?
1.Extreme Temper or Violence
2.Talk of Marriage and/or Children by Her
3.Commiting Serious Criminal Actions
4.Substance Abuse
5.Learning That She's Still Screwing Other Guy(s)
6.Obssesive and/or Controlling Behavior
7.Never Encountering Any Friends or Acquaintances of Hers
Beyond that, I would have to take things on a case-by-case basis. A rather sordid past would make me wary of pursuing anything further, but I generally give people the benefit of the doubt, at least initially(but I'm not so naive as to discount it entirely)
So I'm dating a hot woman for two months, enjoying the sex, and probably beginning to think about an LTR. What would convince me to dump her immediately?
1.Extreme Temper or Violence
2.Talk of Marriage and/or Children by Her
3.Commiting Serious Criminal Actions
4.Substance Abuse
5.Learning That She's Still Screwing Other Guy(s)
6.Obssesive and/or Controlling Behavior
7.Never Encountering Any Friends or Acquaintances of Hers
Beyond that, I would have to take things on a case-by-case basis. A rather sordid past would make me wary of pursuing anything further, but I generally give people the benefit of the doubt, at least initially(but I'm not so naive as to discount it entirely)
IamtheRemedy
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KILL HER SIBLINGS AND SHE WILL PROLLY DUMP U
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Time Machine
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pressing the blue button...bump!