"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Umirinbrah

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to get a girl to go home with me?

Say you have a good time with a girl at the club. Dancing, flirting, etc. You get her number and say you'll hang out with her in the future. But what if you want to take her home with you?

Has this ever worked before or would it just not work cause girls don't want to look like sluzz? What did you say or do if it did work?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chamber36

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ask them if they wanna join you for an afterparty.
 

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Umirinbrah said:
to get a girl to go home with me?

Say you have a good time with a girl at the club. Dancing, flirting, etc. You get her number and say you'll hang out with her in the future. But what if you want to take her home with you?

Has this ever worked before or would it just not work cause girls don't want to look like sluzz? What did you say or do if it did work?
If you want to take her home just say "wanna go to my place", and yes it works, everything else in this world works one time or another, given the circumstances are right. Don´t try to categorize reality like that, like if a statement applies to all situations possible. An essential DJ skill it to learn to read the situations, know "what´s going on". If the girl is allready into you she will go, it´s about interest level, if she doesn´t have enough interest she wont.
Simple as that, dont try to calculate and analyze possibilities like that. You´ll get a brain cramp and will end up going home alone at times where you could´ve gone accompanied. :)
 

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Im heading to the club now for my sister in law birthday party. Im thinking fun not outcome.
 

powpow

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I find recently that direct is best.

Depends on your style.

Last girl, I didnt even talk to her at all. Sniped her from across the room. She came over.

Hey, whats your name, sweetheart?
Ryuu, yours?
Lets go.
Ok.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mike32ct

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Radharc said:
If you want to take her home just say "wanna go to my place", and yes it works, everything else in this world works one time or another, given the circumstances are right. Don´t try to categorize reality like that, like if a statement applies to all situations possible. An essential DJ skill it to learn to read the situations, know "what´s going on". If the girl is allready into you she will go, it´s about interest level, if she doesn´t have enough interest she wont.
Simple as that, dont try to calculate and analyze possibilities like that. You´ll get a brain cramp and will end up going home alone at times where you could´ve gone accompanied. :)
Spot on. It's all about interest level. She goes home with you because she's attracted to you and DTF, not because your line was so clever. A very simple line like that listed above will be sufficient.

One piece of advice though..... Don't get too heavy into making out and groping in the club. Make out a bit, then pull back. Leave her wanting more. Then she will be more inclined to leave with you than if you mauled her for a half hour first. At least that is my experience. Then once she's back at your place, you can get as physical as you want.
 
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