That is.... Unconditional love, every since I got introduced to this guide called the A Course iN MiRacles it changed my life forever... A great lesson would be little kids and if you have one then your pet... Dont you remember how good you would feel if you loved somebody or was being loved? I don't know about you but nothing feels better than that for me !!! Especially when we were little kids, all the attention and catering we would get from our friends and family, the world was in total abundance it felt like.. I think for MOST people the happiest time of their life is in childhood.. ( a kid laughts 350 times a day while adults laugh only 20 ) this is not about girls its about the happiness and living a fulfilled life. You dont look for a girl for the sex, you look for a girl to be loved and to be nurtured by her.. Why do you think it feels good when they like you? It feels like you are one with them. This might sound a little bit spiritual but I believe that the key to the abundance mindest is LOVE!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What works for me all the time and anytime....
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You're going to be bombarded by a lot of posts by people who are trying to destroy their soft side in order to get laid but I agree and disagree with this at the same time. It is great to be loved but it sounds like you're trying to say it is okay to fall into the grasp of being loved and blanketing your emotions with all the attention. We realize over a period of time that we don't need all of that attention anymore, to regress back to childhood is denying manhood.
I agree but what is your definition of manhood? For my definition of manhood is realizing who you are and what your purpose is, and knowing that you and only " YOU " control your destiny. That doesn't mean that you can't enjoy being love and giving back love. I have to admit the harsh world we live and sometimes people sometimes confuse kindness for weakness... Yet we don't realize that we are all flesh and blood and that we are all going to die someday... and whats really even funny is that we are so small and so tiny like a speck of dust in the universe.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I agree being loved is great. And besides my mom, I love myself more than anyone I know. That being said, I don't need anyone for love, if I do a good enough job loving myself.
Coming from a Buddhist perspective, it shouldn't. Then again the buddhism isn't talking about 'romantic' love.Adam B said:
Loving everyone unconditionally is fine. It only becomes an issue if you expect everyone to love you back because of it - in which case you are setting yourself up to fail from the outset.
Then it isn't unconditional love
I don't agree with the OP. To me it sounds like you are being needy. I believe in self-love and spreading love, not in seeking love. That takes you from being a giver to being a taker, which is not attractive or healthy.
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Who are we to say what "love" is, anyway?
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I would have to agree.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When you say love, its important to understand there is in fact 4 kinds of love. They are agape, phileo, storge, and eros in the greek.
The Greek word for sexual love or passionate love is eros, and we get English words such as “erotic.”
The Greek word that refers to the love of God, one of the kinds of love we are to have for people, is agape.
The third word for “love” we need to examine is phileo, which means “to have a special interest in someone or something, frequently with focus on close association; have affection for, like, consider someone a friend.”
The fourth Greek word we need to understand is storge, which is the love and affection that naturally occurs between parents and children, can exist between siblings, and exists between husbands and wives in a good marriage.
The Greek word for sexual love or passionate love is eros, and we get English words such as “erotic.”
The Greek word that refers to the love of God, one of the kinds of love we are to have for people, is agape.
The third word for “love” we need to examine is phileo, which means “to have a special interest in someone or something, frequently with focus on close association; have affection for, like, consider someone a friend.”
The fourth Greek word we need to understand is storge, which is the love and affection that naturally occurs between parents and children, can exist between siblings, and exists between husbands and wives in a good marriage.
Indeed.SinJester said:Then it isn't unconditional love
I don't agree with the OP. To me it sounds like you are being needy. I believe in self-love and spreading love, not in seeking love. That takes you from being a giver to being a taker, which is not attractive or healthy.
Many AFC's are selfish because they constantly want something all the time. They are acting nice to get something and women can sense this a mile off.
If you are genuinely nice it will attract people to you.