That is.... Unconditional love, every since I got introduced to this guide called the A Course iN MiRacles it changed my life forever... A great lesson would be little kids and if you have one then your pet... Dont you remember how good you would feel if you loved somebody or was being loved? I don't know about you but nothing feels better than that for me !!! Especially when we were little kids, all the attention and catering we would get from our friends and family, the world was in total abundance it felt like.. I think for MOST people the happiest time of their life is in childhood.. ( a kid laughts 350 times a day while adults laugh only 20 ) this is not about girls its about the happiness and living a fulfilled life. You dont look for a girl for the sex, you look for a girl to be loved and to be nurtured by her.. Why do you think it feels good when they like you? It feels like you are one with them. This might sound a little bit spiritual but I believe that the key to the abundance mindest is LOVE!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What works for me all the time and anytime....
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You're going to be bombarded by a lot of posts by people who are trying to destroy their soft side in order to get laid but I agree and disagree with this at the same time. It is great to be loved but it sounds like you're trying to say it is okay to fall into the grasp of being loved and blanketing your emotions with all the attention. We realize over a period of time that we don't need all of that attention anymore, to regress back to childhood is denying manhood.
I agree but what is your definition of manhood? For my definition of manhood is realizing who you are and what your purpose is, and knowing that you and only " YOU " control your destiny. That doesn't mean that you can't enjoy being love and giving back love. I have to admit the harsh world we live and sometimes people sometimes confuse kindness for weakness... Yet we don't realize that we are all flesh and blood and that we are all going to die someday... and whats really even funny is that we are so small and so tiny like a speck of dust in the universe.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I agree being loved is great. And besides my mom, I love myself more than anyone I know. That being said, I don't need anyone for love, if I do a good enough job loving myself.
Coming from a Buddhist perspective, it shouldn't. Then again the buddhism isn't talking about 'romantic' love.Adam B said:
Loving everyone unconditionally is fine. It only becomes an issue if you expect everyone to love you back because of it - in which case you are setting yourself up to fail from the outset.
Then it isn't unconditional love
I don't agree with the OP. To me it sounds like you are being needy. I believe in self-love and spreading love, not in seeking love. That takes you from being a giver to being a taker, which is not attractive or healthy.
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Who are we to say what "love" is, anyway?
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I would have to agree.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When you say love, its important to understand there is in fact 4 kinds of love. They are agape, phileo, storge, and eros in the greek.
The Greek word for sexual love or passionate love is eros, and we get English words such as “erotic.”
The Greek word that refers to the love of God, one of the kinds of love we are to have for people, is agape.
The third word for “love” we need to examine is phileo, which means “to have a special interest in someone or something, frequently with focus on close association; have affection for, like, consider someone a friend.”
The fourth Greek word we need to understand is storge, which is the love and affection that naturally occurs between parents and children, can exist between siblings, and exists between husbands and wives in a good marriage.
The Greek word for sexual love or passionate love is eros, and we get English words such as “erotic.”
The Greek word that refers to the love of God, one of the kinds of love we are to have for people, is agape.
The third word for “love” we need to examine is phileo, which means “to have a special interest in someone or something, frequently with focus on close association; have affection for, like, consider someone a friend.”
The fourth Greek word we need to understand is storge, which is the love and affection that naturally occurs between parents and children, can exist between siblings, and exists between husbands and wives in a good marriage.
Indeed.SinJester said:Then it isn't unconditional love
I don't agree with the OP. To me it sounds like you are being needy. I believe in self-love and spreading love, not in seeking love. That takes you from being a giver to being a taker, which is not attractive or healthy.
Many AFC's are selfish because they constantly want something all the time. They are acting nice to get something and women can sense this a mile off.
If you are genuinely nice it will attract people to you.