jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hello friends!
I imagine everyone here is aware of what women like, and in this case, I'd like to focus on what women read.
Although women have reading preferences, I've noticed that many of them almost always read the same types of novels/stories. (I'm talking about novels that you can easily find on a site like Amazon's bestseller list)
I've been following this topic for a while now, it really got my interest, and I'm really noticing the same patterns.
But I'll give some examples for those who are interested in this topic, or if it's new, it would be very interesting.
Some books examples, but you could find many others:
We can see how the thread is always the same:
The woman meets this man and is madly infatuated, and usually this man is a man of high social status, or rich, or tattooed, or physically fit, or handsome, or intelligent, or sexy, or all of the above.
They almost all tell the same story: this man's life is full of secrets, he's feared by others, he's out of this woman's reach, and this man is troubled, obsessed, mentally challenged, and he talks about how this woman is the only one who can heal his heart. The only one who can change him for the better and make him better.
These men are clumsy, insecure, arrogant, noisy, they force women to do things, they kidnap her, they lock her in the cellar, they deplore her in front of everyone, they ground her, etc. Violence, rape, and even more macabre things. Horrifying.
These books sell like hotcakes, women recommend them by word of mouth, and they all have 5 stars, or close to it.
And they're very popular.
Let's get down to business:
I've noticed that many of the women who read these books have husbands or partners who are the complete opposite of what they read about.
Those men are kind, a little ugly, with normal status, normal jobs, in short, normal people, but they care deeply about her, who take care of her. Very supportive.
I've also noticed a minority of women who actually are with men that are described in the books.
(I participate in several book clubs, and 90% of the participants are female, and I've made friends with practically all of them, and I know their families.)
One thing that is certain is the behavior of women:
although those with "normal and kind" boyfriends/husbands appear to have a more normal relationship, in reality they react to men as they are described in the books. Indeed, there have been some relationships in which women in this group have divorced and moved on to men completely different and opposite from the "normal and kind" one they were with, and have moved on to the "tormented" man from their books. And some of those relationship didn't last.
I like to talk about this because a very true saying that I've been able to confirm over time, and I do imagine you too, is "Don't look at what people say, but look at what they do." And in this case, it can be useful. (Women choose a "stable, kind, normal" man so they can embark on adventures in their books with the fictional "tormented and demonic" man.)
Yet there's a contrast here:
women desperately love to lose themselves in these books and these love stories, and they instinctively react to that "tormented" man in their books, should he ever appear before them in real life, yet in their real life, everything is in order and they have a "normal and kind" man.
In my theory, women can only abandon themselves to these worlds when they have peace around them, when they know they can count on this "normal and kind" man, next to them, and so they go and enjoy the "violent" adventure of a book. But some of them, it seems, would never trade their man for a "tormented" one who attracts them and is described in their books, even if it evokes deep emotions.
Given this: how much truth is there in this?
From women's behavior, not their words, it would seem they are choosing a "boring" man rather than one who arouses "emotions." Deep down, are these women simply afraid of being socially judged for their choice, by their family, friends, or someone else? And if the "tormented" man were socially accepted, then would she feel free to make the choice, and in that case, would she choose him? Is this a social "boundary" that women impose on themselves?
You know, IRL, ten women choose ten "normal" men from their social circle, even though all ten women know it perfectly well, and it's as if they can tell by just looking at each other that one or two men are the ones described in the books, with whom they would have lived a "tormented, chaotic, exciting" life, but they didn't choose them for some reason.
Aren't these women choosing the "tormented" man because they know he won't commit? What if he did commit? Would they choose him?
This is something we can think about, and some of you may already have a correct answer.
Furthermore,
It's not possible that all women in the world are damaged because they read these books. In fact, there are many mothers who have built very beautiful families, and you'd never think they could swear, yet you find out that they read this kind of stuff.
So, after having illustrated what women "do", that is, read these "tormented and chaotic" novels, and choose "stable and calm" partners, we would simply like to understand whether the woman is really choosing a "normal" partner because she is genuinely attracted, or simply she's wearing a social mask.
Those things that raise many doubts are also the popular ones that are read and reread about how a newlywed, pregnant woman has to keep an eye on her husband because he comes home late at night and might cheat on her or abandon her.
Or there was a book about how the woman talked about how she'll kill her husband's lover, who, incidentally, is one of her friends in the same social circle.
Women are "thinking" that these things are exciting and interesting to them, and the mere thought a woman generates by being interested in "married woman is abandoned, raped, cheated on" or "my husband's lover is a friend who has kept it from me for a long time" simply lets us men know that women actually want these things in their lives, and that they are looking for them as latent qualities in their partners.
The possibility that he is cheating on her, or that he has cheated on her, isn't a disrespectful attitude, as they would have us believe, but rather a demonstration that he's sought after by other women, still attractive, and it makes her feel inferior and obligated to control him, lest he run away. He's not sick, disrespectful, or irresponsible. He's precious.
I imagine everyone here is aware of what women like, and in this case, I'd like to focus on what women read.
Although women have reading preferences, I've noticed that many of them almost always read the same types of novels/stories. (I'm talking about novels that you can easily find on a site like Amazon's bestseller list)
I've been following this topic for a while now, it really got my interest, and I'm really noticing the same patterns.
But I'll give some examples for those who are interested in this topic, or if it's new, it would be very interesting.
Some books examples, but you could find many others:
Amazon.com: The Wrong Catch: A Football Romance: The Wrong Player Series, Book 3 (Audible Audio Edition): C.R. Jane, Lucas Webley, Alexis Paige, Podium Audio: Books
Amazon.com: The Wrong Catch: A Football Romance: The Wrong Player Series, Book 3 (Audible Audio Edition): C.R. Jane, Lucas Webley, Alexis Paige, Podium Audio: Books
www.amazon.com
We can see how the thread is always the same:
The woman meets this man and is madly infatuated, and usually this man is a man of high social status, or rich, or tattooed, or physically fit, or handsome, or intelligent, or sexy, or all of the above.
They almost all tell the same story: this man's life is full of secrets, he's feared by others, he's out of this woman's reach, and this man is troubled, obsessed, mentally challenged, and he talks about how this woman is the only one who can heal his heart. The only one who can change him for the better and make him better.
These men are clumsy, insecure, arrogant, noisy, they force women to do things, they kidnap her, they lock her in the cellar, they deplore her in front of everyone, they ground her, etc. Violence, rape, and even more macabre things. Horrifying.
These books sell like hotcakes, women recommend them by word of mouth, and they all have 5 stars, or close to it.
And they're very popular.
Let's get down to business:
I've noticed that many of the women who read these books have husbands or partners who are the complete opposite of what they read about.
Those men are kind, a little ugly, with normal status, normal jobs, in short, normal people, but they care deeply about her, who take care of her. Very supportive.
I've also noticed a minority of women who actually are with men that are described in the books.
(I participate in several book clubs, and 90% of the participants are female, and I've made friends with practically all of them, and I know their families.)
One thing that is certain is the behavior of women:
although those with "normal and kind" boyfriends/husbands appear to have a more normal relationship, in reality they react to men as they are described in the books. Indeed, there have been some relationships in which women in this group have divorced and moved on to men completely different and opposite from the "normal and kind" one they were with, and have moved on to the "tormented" man from their books. And some of those relationship didn't last.
I like to talk about this because a very true saying that I've been able to confirm over time, and I do imagine you too, is "Don't look at what people say, but look at what they do." And in this case, it can be useful. (Women choose a "stable, kind, normal" man so they can embark on adventures in their books with the fictional "tormented and demonic" man.)
Yet there's a contrast here:
women desperately love to lose themselves in these books and these love stories, and they instinctively react to that "tormented" man in their books, should he ever appear before them in real life, yet in their real life, everything is in order and they have a "normal and kind" man.
In my theory, women can only abandon themselves to these worlds when they have peace around them, when they know they can count on this "normal and kind" man, next to them, and so they go and enjoy the "violent" adventure of a book. But some of them, it seems, would never trade their man for a "tormented" one who attracts them and is described in their books, even if it evokes deep emotions.
Given this: how much truth is there in this?
From women's behavior, not their words, it would seem they are choosing a "boring" man rather than one who arouses "emotions." Deep down, are these women simply afraid of being socially judged for their choice, by their family, friends, or someone else? And if the "tormented" man were socially accepted, then would she feel free to make the choice, and in that case, would she choose him? Is this a social "boundary" that women impose on themselves?
You know, IRL, ten women choose ten "normal" men from their social circle, even though all ten women know it perfectly well, and it's as if they can tell by just looking at each other that one or two men are the ones described in the books, with whom they would have lived a "tormented, chaotic, exciting" life, but they didn't choose them for some reason.
Aren't these women choosing the "tormented" man because they know he won't commit? What if he did commit? Would they choose him?
This is something we can think about, and some of you may already have a correct answer.
Furthermore,
It's not possible that all women in the world are damaged because they read these books. In fact, there are many mothers who have built very beautiful families, and you'd never think they could swear, yet you find out that they read this kind of stuff.
So, after having illustrated what women "do", that is, read these "tormented and chaotic" novels, and choose "stable and calm" partners, we would simply like to understand whether the woman is really choosing a "normal" partner because she is genuinely attracted, or simply she's wearing a social mask.
Those things that raise many doubts are also the popular ones that are read and reread about how a newlywed, pregnant woman has to keep an eye on her husband because he comes home late at night and might cheat on her or abandon her.
Or there was a book about how the woman talked about how she'll kill her husband's lover, who, incidentally, is one of her friends in the same social circle.
Women are "thinking" that these things are exciting and interesting to them, and the mere thought a woman generates by being interested in "married woman is abandoned, raped, cheated on" or "my husband's lover is a friend who has kept it from me for a long time" simply lets us men know that women actually want these things in their lives, and that they are looking for them as latent qualities in their partners.
The possibility that he is cheating on her, or that he has cheated on her, isn't a disrespectful attitude, as they would have us believe, but rather a demonstration that he's sought after by other women, still attractive, and it makes her feel inferior and obligated to control him, lest he run away. He's not sick, disrespectful, or irresponsible. He's precious.
