This is all true but I want to bring up an opinion of mine which is that in most cases, a man's actions will cause a woman to lose respect for him and as a result, she will begin acting disrespectful to him. This is especially true with blue pill guys, or guys who haven't yet fully learned RP and how to handle women perfectly... like how not to get dragged down into arguments/fights/debates/circular-discussions while still listening to her and stating your point, as well as how to employ silence and distance. On the other hand, I firmly believe that when it comes to crazy women with rage/control issues, their disrespecting you does not originate from something you did causing them to lose respect for you nor does it mean they don't have respect for you; it is simply something they do to everyone close to them as a manifestation of their own internal emotions that they are unable to control. I know this might sound strange but another way of putting it is that a woman acting disrespectful toward you doesn't necessarily mean she has lost respect for you. Of course, if you tolerate the disrespectful behavior, then yes of course she will then also lose respect for you. Women also like to test men to see where the line is and to feel their strength; it helps them trust the man.
But at the end of the day:
- If she is acting disrespectful because she has lost respect for you, the proper action is to walk away.
- If she is acting disrespectful because she has mental problems but still has respect for you, the proper action is to walk away
The only reason I bring this up is because if you walk away from a crazy woman who acted disrespectful to you (the first and EVERY time she does it), she will beg you back like crazy. The girl I dated would have photos of us together printed and attach them to five-page hand-written letters and send them in the mail to me since I had blocked her on text, phone, social media, etc. The letters would go on and on about how I'm the most amazing man she has ever dated and that I'm perfect for her and that she knows we can make it work and that she knows he has things to work on herself and that she will get counseling and make changes blah blah blah. I'd never seen anything like it. YET, when I took her back, in days to weeks, she would have an episode and disrespect me again, which would cause me to respond the same away and walk away from her. Nothing ever changed for more than days or weeks. Women like this do NOT change, but there is a difference between them, and a woman who just needs to know your boundaries and will honor them once she understands them.
So some women just need to understand where your line is, and unless you walk away and ensure she knows you will never look back, then she will never truly know where your line is. This is why my advice, and how I operate, is that you should give all women one, maybe two chances before walking away for good and not going back no matter how much she begs or how hot she is or how amazing the sex is. But it depends on the severity of her disrespect too. But if the disrespect wasn't awful, I really believe giving her one chance after you walk away is necessary if she is someone you want to keep seeing; she needs that to understand where your line is and that you mean business. Another one or more violations and then you just need to accept that she either doesn't respect you, or she is a crazy b*tch who will forever be unable to control her emotions, just like Amber Heard.
This.
If most men think they can have an LTR with a woman which doesn’t involve some nagging, bitching etc, then good luck to them.
I mean, what man alive can say even he’s done the same? You’ve never had a rough day and been abrupt or distant with your wife?
as you say, the mistake most men make is getting drawn in.
Every month I get the week where she’s either in a hole of despair, or mad about something.
trust me, if you try to enforce boundaries at that point, an emotional woman is not shrinking back into some submissive frame. It is the worst thing to do at that point, women are not like that, by and large, if you try to enforce boundaries and ultimatums, a hormonal woman will want to burn her life to the ground.
correct approach is to ignore and walk away. 30 mins later it’s like it never happened.
If it’s actually abuse, and not just some hyper emotional drama queen, by all means get out. Usually it’s just some teenage drama nonsense.
Thing is, as men, we are protectors and leaders. Anger is something which is supposed to be reserved to protecc, not attacc.
I have a 2 year old daughter. She screams and has tantrums. You don’t beat the shyt out of your kid and enforce boundaries, they will hit you and do whatever it is you asked them
Not to. The more I evolve as a man, the more I recognise my wife’s occasional hissy fits come from the same place and the right way to deal is in the same way I deal with my toddlers. Largely, you ignore it. It’s not personal, it’s their emotional issue and you only set boundaries and intervene if you’re in danger - or if they are.
Most Dudes(my former self) judge it by their own standards.
I have a friend who is still single at 43 despite not wanting to be. He is wealthy and succesful. I asked why he is still single. He said “it’s always ok for a few months and then I get some crazy shyt”
i had to explain to him, this is just how chicks are, you can’t generally enjoy the positives of a woman without these negatives. I think it was a revelation to him.
