"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What was this woman thinking and doing?
- Thread starter Raymond
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Um...thank? I read, acquired and practiced all of it overnight. Now I'm a 100% better man.Tiguere said:Go read the dj bible... You sound like a pathetic fool.
Pimp-sicle
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Raymond said:Um...thank? I read, acquired and practiced all of it overnight. Now I'm a 100% better man.
Tiguere was a bit harsh, but he's giving you great advice.
Its clear that you don't understand how attraction works and how women think.
You made so many mistakes, and they can be summarized by the fact that you let your emotions take over & came off as desperate, needy & butt-hurt.
This girl doesn't owe you anything.
The fact that you offered to help her is on you, never do things expecting things in return, especially when it comes to women, otherwise you will be played more times than not.
Stop overanalyzing every little thing she does, from saying hi, to showing you a video. Your obsessed with a girl who doesn't see you as a guy she's interested in dating…… that's a huge waste of time.
Take it as a lesson, learn what mistakes you made, read the sticky thread at the top that links to the DJ Bible so you don't make all these mistakes again.
And mainly realize the greatest thing in life; there are so many other women out there. You should always be talking/flirting/dating multiple women anyways, that will kill your desperation and help you realize that a woman should chase after you, not the other way around.
In the future never ask a women why she said this or that and get all emotional, it shows them you don't understand them and makes you look bad.
Your young, read learn, ask questions and you will improve.
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a sure sign that you are not in control. and girls are not attracted to guys who are not in control. she should be the one asking why?
the next time she wants you to do something, you tell her 'in just a minute' and you then ignore her. it's time to take control. and you do that by forgetting about this girl.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Listen. No matter what you do, nothing is going to happen with this girl. You've already blown it (many times over). Deal with it.Raymond said:Are you saying that there's no reason behind her actions, and I shouldn't try to decode it?
Also, I believe I have improved by acting indifferently this time and tried to control my emotion as best as I could.
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I'm saying her reasons ought not be your concern.Raymond said:Are you saying that there's no reason behind her actions, and I shouldn't try to decode it?
Also, I believe I have improved by acting indifferently this time and tried to control my emotion as best as I could.
The more attention you give her the less she feels the Need to have you as she already has you.
Your attention is your power. Stop giving it away.