"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What was this woman thinking and doing?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Um...thank? I read, acquired and practiced all of it overnight. Now I'm a 100% better man.Tiguere said:Go read the dj bible... You sound like a pathetic fool.
Pimp-sicle
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Raymond said:Um...thank? I read, acquired and practiced all of it overnight. Now I'm a 100% better man.
Tiguere was a bit harsh, but he's giving you great advice.
Its clear that you don't understand how attraction works and how women think.
You made so many mistakes, and they can be summarized by the fact that you let your emotions take over & came off as desperate, needy & butt-hurt.
This girl doesn't owe you anything.
The fact that you offered to help her is on you, never do things expecting things in return, especially when it comes to women, otherwise you will be played more times than not.
Stop overanalyzing every little thing she does, from saying hi, to showing you a video. Your obsessed with a girl who doesn't see you as a guy she's interested in dating…… that's a huge waste of time.
Take it as a lesson, learn what mistakes you made, read the sticky thread at the top that links to the DJ Bible so you don't make all these mistakes again.
And mainly realize the greatest thing in life; there are so many other women out there. You should always be talking/flirting/dating multiple women anyways, that will kill your desperation and help you realize that a woman should chase after you, not the other way around.
In the future never ask a women why she said this or that and get all emotional, it shows them you don't understand them and makes you look bad.
Your young, read learn, ask questions and you will improve.
PIMP
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a sure sign that you are not in control. and girls are not attracted to guys who are not in control. she should be the one asking why?
the next time she wants you to do something, you tell her 'in just a minute' and you then ignore her. it's time to take control. and you do that by forgetting about this girl.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Listen. No matter what you do, nothing is going to happen with this girl. You've already blown it (many times over). Deal with it.Raymond said:Are you saying that there's no reason behind her actions, and I shouldn't try to decode it?
Also, I believe I have improved by acting indifferently this time and tried to control my emotion as best as I could.
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I'm saying her reasons ought not be your concern.Raymond said:Are you saying that there's no reason behind her actions, and I shouldn't try to decode it?
Also, I believe I have improved by acting indifferently this time and tried to control my emotion as best as I could.
The more attention you give her the less she feels the Need to have you as she already has you.
Your attention is your power. Stop giving it away.