This poll is the contrapositive to my other poll about the outcome of you saying it first, but what happened when SHE said the 'L' word first? Did she really mean it in the end?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What was the Outcome when SHE said the 'L' Word First?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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As I said in your other thread, I have always recommended letting the girl say it first. I figured this gives you the frame, and indicates high interest on the girl's part.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.