This poll is the contrapositive to my other poll about the outcome of you saying it first, but what happened when SHE said the 'L' word first? Did she really mean it in the end?
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What was the Outcome when SHE said the 'L' Word First?
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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As I said in your other thread, I have always recommended letting the girl say it first. I figured this gives you the frame, and indicates high interest on the girl's part.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.