"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
what was the biggest red flag she unintentionally gave you?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
1) One girl once told me, while we were sitting having a cup of coffee on our first date, "I used to shoplift when I was younger". Just out of the blue like that. I thought she was a complete fruitcake for telling me that, especially on a first date!
2) A 21 yr girl I met in a nightclub last year tried to bull**** me with "I have a 45 year old bf at home and he always buys me stuff and treats me like a princess". Needless to say, she was lying and it put me off right away.
3) One girl I met last year and started emailing, when I tried flirting with her over email she said "I'm going to ignore the flirting...". I lost interest after that.
There are lots more examples I could give if I think back over the years, but those are the ones that stand out.
Girls give out unintentional 'red flags' all the time, and as an Enlightened Seducer you should be able to spot these red flags so you can weed out the girls who are worthy of your time from those who are not.
Mike32ct
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1) Having known a girl for 45 minutes, we're dancing slow - an accident, it came on as we hit the floor. "I'm not a virgin. I was abused by my grandfather when I was six."
I twirled her away, and by the time she finished spinning, I was gone.
2) After two days of good game. "You can come over tonight, but only for a few hours. I live with...brace yourself...my fiance. But he's gone until ten it's ok!"
I stuck around long enough to look at pictures on her phone when I thought she was joking. I went outside "for a fag". No, I went outside for a run!
3) After sex. "I haven't been ridden that hard since I was 13. You were fantastic."
If you think men only sneak out of windows and down drainpipes in sitcoms, I proved you wrong on this day.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
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that was the funniest sh*t ever!!! :crackup:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
:crackup: At least she didnt say, "damn, you're better than my daddy!"Cabal said:
I was hitting on a chick,and she said she was still really hung up on her ex. Then she mentioned it was my drummer, in my last band that broke up a few months earlier. They dated...get this...15 years ago!
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
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Ridingthelightning
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-Any abuse as a child
-Divorced parents
-Constant me, myself, and I talk
-Being too quiet
-Being too loud
-B!tchyness towards anything when I meet her the first time
-Crying over nothing
-Unintelligence
-Improper grammar
-etc. etc.
The odd thing was she seemed to really like me. but her personality was way too off-putting
i tell you i went cold and when i got off of the bus at my stop i didnt look back once.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
yeah something about the way she said it and the look on her face, then she had a damn why did i say that look,horaholic said:
my prob is no normal girl would get that deep straight away this was my first convo with her apart from hi and byes
and to be fair she said quite a few other things and her general body language were just (oh poor me im stressed)
and i didnt bail that was my stop