"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What was she thinking?

tom121

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This asian chick had eye contact with me for like 2 seconds, at first she was the one looking directly at me, so I turned around and we had direct eye contact at each other.

She gave me like a "half" smile, I just paused and looking at her with no expression. Then she just walked by me without saying anything. Later on she was looking at my direction from far distance, I caught that several times.

I mean why doesn't she say anything, because she talks to any guy at the skatepark (from what I've seen). For some reason she just don't approach me and yet she gives me signal :confused:

I mean I don't want to make a fool of myself saying something like these

"hey that was a nice fall you did"
"hey where did you learn how to do tricks like that"

I've seen her many times at the skatepark, today was the first time she actually smiled at me, before I usually caught her looking at me
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tom121

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how about this?

"hey I couldn't help but notice you've been checking me out for the past 10 minutes :D ;)"

she looks kind of older than me ( like 3~4 years older :eek: ) but I never know

what if she says "in your dream" how should I respond as funny and not insulting?
 
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this exactly same thing happened to me...
I noticed this girl chekin me out.. and I was like

"hey if you can look at me, you can talk to me"
her : no i wasn't
me: oh, then why u just blushed?? :D(that was lie which I played)
her: *blushed actually*....

it was simple, direct approach... but the thing is without proper bodylanguage this won't work...
I used the first line quite a few times, and results were different :eek:

u need powerful bodylanguage, yet not caring about the world.. it's hard to explain...
WhoAmI
 

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You should just apply the 3 second rule made mainstream by Rick "Super H". As soon as he sees a chick he's interested, he makes sure to approach within 3 seconds.

If you are not that ballsy, approach just the women who stare at you and/or smile. That is her signal for mating. The guys that end up getting her understand this, they are either alpha males or are older and get this aspect of the game.
 

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Originally posted by tom121
...I mean why doesn't she say anything, because she talks to any guy at the skatepark (from what I've seen). For some reason she just don't approach me and yet she gives me signal :confused: ...
This is your job, dude. Her job is to let you know she likes what she sees.

She did that. She gave you the green lights to approach.

Your job is to WALK up to her and SMILE and SAY "hi".

Failure to do that says to her you don't have balls enough for her or you're not interested. She'll feel rejected and possibly insulted. You don't want to get to that point. Hence, the 3-second rule...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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