You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I've lost some expensive sunglasses in my time. These days, I rock these. They're relatively cheap, they're polarized AND they're ballistic safety glasses that I can wear to the gun range. They have a bunch of styles on their actual website. I couldn't tell the difference between the lenses on these and my more expensive glasses.dasein said:I used to have nice sunglasses in my youth, all brands. The hot ones back then were Bolle Irex, Ray Ban shooting glasses, Wayfarers, Oakleys, BaloRamas (Dirty Harry looking rayban wraparounds). These days I go in bargain stores and buy them for $2 a pair so when women and friends steal...erm "borrow" them, I just get 10 more pairs. If they are picked out right at the right stores, most of the cheap ones are better looking than any of the expensive ones I ever had. They are great trinkets for flirting too that you don't care if you get back or not. Go get yourself some cheap sunglasses.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No idea what a "Wayfair" is. And most Oakleys are for try hard tools. Way to bump an 8 year old thread. I suspect spambot.GolfHotel10 said:Well i have a pair of Wayfair sunglasses and a pair of Oakley Flak Jackets. If your a hat person id get the Oakleys if your more of a preppy beach person id get Wayfairs but for me it depends on my mood and the occasion and the weather that determines if i wear my Oaks and a hat or my Wayfairs. I hope this helped![]()
I'm blind in one of my eyes. Surgery can't fix it and I don't like contacts because I like something covering my good eye just in case.Vice said:And FFS FairShake get rid of clip on ANYTHING. Get contacts or surgery.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.