I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've lost some expensive sunglasses in my time. These days, I rock these. They're relatively cheap, they're polarized AND they're ballistic safety glasses that I can wear to the gun range. They have a bunch of styles on their actual website. I couldn't tell the difference between the lenses on these and my more expensive glasses.dasein said:I used to have nice sunglasses in my youth, all brands. The hot ones back then were Bolle Irex, Ray Ban shooting glasses, Wayfarers, Oakleys, BaloRamas (Dirty Harry looking rayban wraparounds). These days I go in bargain stores and buy them for $2 a pair so when women and friends steal...erm "borrow" them, I just get 10 more pairs. If they are picked out right at the right stores, most of the cheap ones are better looking than any of the expensive ones I ever had. They are great trinkets for flirting too that you don't care if you get back or not. Go get yourself some cheap sunglasses.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No idea what a "Wayfair" is. And most Oakleys are for try hard tools. Way to bump an 8 year old thread. I suspect spambot.GolfHotel10 said:Well i have a pair of Wayfair sunglasses and a pair of Oakley Flak Jackets. If your a hat person id get the Oakleys if your more of a preppy beach person id get Wayfairs but for me it depends on my mood and the occasion and the weather that determines if i wear my Oaks and a hat or my Wayfairs. I hope this helped![]()
I'm blind in one of my eyes. Surgery can't fix it and I don't like contacts because I like something covering my good eye just in case.Vice said:And FFS FairShake get rid of clip on ANYTHING. Get contacts or surgery.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.