"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What type of person are you?

After reading the description, which type of person are you?

  • Type 1

    Votes: 5 13.5%
  • Type 2

    Votes: 5 13.5%
  • Type 3

    Votes: 8 21.6%
  • Type 4

    Votes: 2 5.4%
  • Type 5

    Votes: 5 13.5%
  • Type 6

    Votes: 3 8.1%
  • Type 7

    Votes: 6 16.2%
  • Type 8

    Votes: 3 8.1%

  • Total voters
    37

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There are different types of people, and I'm interested to see if there are any correlation with success with women.
Choose the type you most closely resemble:

Type 1: Is a DJ. Generally outgoing and likes to get things done quickly
Type 2: Is a DJ. Generally quiet and likes to get things done quickly
Type 3: Is a DJ. Generally outgoing, easy going and patient
Type 4: Is a DJ. Generally quiet, easy going and patient
Type 5: Is not a DJ. Generally outgoing and likes to things done quickly
Type 6: Is not a DJ. Generally quiet and likes to get things done quickly
Type 7: Is not a DJ. Generally outgoing, easy going and patient
Type 8: Is not a DJ. Generally quiet, easy going and patient
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dante3214

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I don't know if I'm ANY of these things.


I'm going through a transitional period here, as a lot of us are, so these may change quickly.

(voted 7)
 

flippinfreak

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Generally outgoing is an understatement.

(voted 1)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bonhomme

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Usually Type 1, but has all the other tendencies. Very delibreate if I don't want to be hurried on a task.
 

The_flying_dutchman

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Type 6. I'm far from a DJ but doing whatever I can to reach that goal. My ideal self would be type 1 but I've gotta work on my social skills a little more.
 

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Wanted to see if these traits had trends on being a DJ or not. There's not really enough votes yet to say what the results are.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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IsiMan84

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I don't know if it's up to myself to decide if I'm a DJ, and these seem a little too specific, but the closest would be either 3 or 7. I didn't vote though.
 
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