"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What to wear to a Teen Club?
- Thread starter Carnegie
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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The more comfortable you feel, the more at-ease you're going to be.
HOWEVER, the more you stand out, the more you're going to get noticed, which is not necessarily a bad thing.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BlackAccord
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button shirt, sleeves rolled up right to the elbow
jeans, nice shoes, something like that
dipset_mafia
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what is a teen club anyway?
if you're going to a fancy suave club... check the dress code!!
-you'll probably need dress shoes, and dress pants
-and a button down shirt, something classy, solid colour maybe,
if you're going to a GRIMEY hip hop club, rethink your dress...
-i wouldn't dress as nice.. you can get away with a white T and jeans... even a hoody, and hat.. u MUST check the dress code.
-u can wear boots, (like timbs, or nike ACGs) or u can wear any casual shoes.. or basketball shoes..
if you're going to a WHITE club..
-button down, stripes or solid,
-jeans, or dark jeans, or othr jeans
-casual to dress shoes...
----- the most important part about this is....
BUY WHITE UNDERSHIRTS... always wear a white undershirt (not a tank top, a t-shirt) AND: make sure you have a NICE shirt, ask other people if u can't figure it out.. if ur button down shirt looks like sh!t.. you look like sh1t..
always check the dress code before you go, especially if you're going to a classy club, or to a dirty club (i.e. u might need nice shoes, or you might need to leave your bandana at home)
oh and, ya, u can roll ur sleeves up, if it looks good
good luck,
Why should I wear an undershirt? The dress shirt Im wearing fits perfectly so I dont think I need an undershirt. Also would dress pants be to awkward even if it is NOT a fancy club. Its 8 bucks to enter..
BlackAccord
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and i agree, an undershirt is needed in many situations where your getting dressed up
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dipset_mafia
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i don't know what the shox look like.. but shox aren't a very good shoe for a club.. you definetely want something casual, and less sporty..
---- as for dress pants
unless specifically stated in the club's dress code that you MUST wear dress pants - i'd be wearing jeans - you can buy classy looking suave jeans too... unless ofcourse everyone that you're going to the club with are also wearing dress pants.
basically, go to the club and see what others are wearing, and then next time dress to either fit in, or stand out...
BlackAccord
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your trying to pull off sneakers with a classier outfit, just doesnt work right
dipset_mafia
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everyone looks nicer in nice clothes.. it all depends on what kind of vibe you want to put out...
no, not beaters - a white T-shirt is what i mean by undershirt. it should be loose and the trim should be able to show a bit..
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Jeans: Any thing that isn't the same, jeans with something more to them like a patch or something that makes them look unique
Shoes: New Rock 373 Reactor
You probably noticed there is always a trend. In the clubs I frequent guys have dark hair side burns and tans, they wear soft colors like blues or pinks. with the over played black mens dress shoe. Its probably just me but if you try to look like every other jack off in the club why bother with any DJ/PUA stuff why not mimic what they do.
90% of the guy friends I know are so afraid of wearing pink; they think it'll ruin their reputation (and majority of them don't even have one).
Like most of the guys said, standing out will be a great supplement to your game
especially if you want the attention from the ladies. I haven't been to a club yet, but as far as I know, some people got attention from my Homecoming when they wore bright colors, as opposed to most of the people wearing black and gray.