"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What to wear, oh what to wear??

Drewskie

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As I have said in another post or two, I've been a clothes kick lately. I actually bought some new stuff, and pulled out the stuff in my closet that I haven't worn in a while, "nicer" stuff. My question is, where the hell do you guys wear your nice clothes out to?? At work, I have a certain uniform, and wouldn't want to wear my nicer things anyway for fear of ruining them, then the only other place is a bar, and the occasional house party. So, especially those of you that don't frequent the bar/club scene, where can we show off our new gear??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JDA70

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I personally wear my stuff everywhere I go. Yup even Walmart.
You just have to be extra careful. It's a good habit to get into.
 

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Drewskie said:
Hahaha, thanks.
Seriously now, is it that strange for Americans to take a walk or just stand for 15 minutes on a bench in some nice square or a park and just enjoy the nice weather, the architecture around or the green grass, smoke a cigarette and watch the people around you?

Everyone does it here in Europe, well maybe except the gay italians.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PRMoon

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I wear nice things 24 hours a day. I have a very deep collection of clothes and my wardrobe natrually turns itself over, between my purchases and that of my family during the holidays. Even the clothes I sleep in are of a designer nature.
 

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PRMoon said:
I wear nice things 24 hours a day. I have a very deep collection of clothes and my wardrobe natrually turns itself over, between my purchases and that of my family during the holidays. Even the clothes I sleep in are of a designer nature.
really?? nice. I just see as a waste to wear my nice clothes out when I'm definitely not going to have to impress anyone. Like work, home, etc.
 

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Drewskie said:
really?? nice. I just see as a waste to wear my nice clothes out when I'm definitely not going to have to impress anyone. Like work, home, etc.
I think you're missing the point. I don't own "unimpressive" clothing. If I kept all of the clothes I kept stockpiling clothes over the years I'd have no more closet space at all. I even have those space saver hooks for my hangers and vacumm storage bags for sweaters and stuff (don't really need sweaters in the desert too much but I travel from time to time). I get rid of clothes once or twice a year, donate or trash depnding on the quality. What's left is a very impressive set of clothes across the board from top to bottom.
 
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