"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What to wear, oh what to wear??

Drewskie

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As I have said in another post or two, I've been a clothes kick lately. I actually bought some new stuff, and pulled out the stuff in my closet that I haven't worn in a while, "nicer" stuff. My question is, where the hell do you guys wear your nice clothes out to?? At work, I have a certain uniform, and wouldn't want to wear my nicer things anyway for fear of ruining them, then the only other place is a bar, and the occasional house party. So, especially those of you that don't frequent the bar/club scene, where can we show off our new gear??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JDA70

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I personally wear my stuff everywhere I go. Yup even Walmart.
You just have to be extra careful. It's a good habit to get into.
 

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Drewskie said:
Hahaha, thanks.
Seriously now, is it that strange for Americans to take a walk or just stand for 15 minutes on a bench in some nice square or a park and just enjoy the nice weather, the architecture around or the green grass, smoke a cigarette and watch the people around you?

Everyone does it here in Europe, well maybe except the gay italians.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wear nice things 24 hours a day. I have a very deep collection of clothes and my wardrobe natrually turns itself over, between my purchases and that of my family during the holidays. Even the clothes I sleep in are of a designer nature.
 

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PRMoon said:
I wear nice things 24 hours a day. I have a very deep collection of clothes and my wardrobe natrually turns itself over, between my purchases and that of my family during the holidays. Even the clothes I sleep in are of a designer nature.
really?? nice. I just see as a waste to wear my nice clothes out when I'm definitely not going to have to impress anyone. Like work, home, etc.
 

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Drewskie said:
really?? nice. I just see as a waste to wear my nice clothes out when I'm definitely not going to have to impress anyone. Like work, home, etc.
I think you're missing the point. I don't own "unimpressive" clothing. If I kept all of the clothes I kept stockpiling clothes over the years I'd have no more closet space at all. I even have those space saver hooks for my hangers and vacumm storage bags for sweaters and stuff (don't really need sweaters in the desert too much but I travel from time to time). I get rid of clothes once or twice a year, donate or trash depnding on the quality. What's left is a very impressive set of clothes across the board from top to bottom.
 
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