"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What To Think Now?

amnbyrd

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I made a post a few days back about this girl Ive been seeing and how she ruined things Sunday by inviting a friend to go to the movies with us. I had already deleted her number and decided she had to be Nexted. But out of nowhere today she texted me " Can I ask you two ?'s"
The 2 ?'s were kinda deep-1st was "What was your impression after reading my book?" (it was a book of poems she wrote and I was the 2nd person whos read it) and 2nd ? was "What do you do when the only person whos arms felt like home is gone?"
(quick recap is she dated some guy for 4 years and they broke up-now this was over 2 years ago but shes been hung over him ever since)
Anyways I told her what I honestly thought and her conclusion was that she should get over things and move on.
Now Im left wondering as to why she asked me them questions and how I should take things from here? I also have noted in my mind the things I dont like about her and how she def owes me an apology for how she acted before.
What should I do to handle this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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loving

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she shared her deep self with you and you could not even make it through one time with her because of someone else there who you put responsibility on and thus "ruined" your time. or whatever, i didnt read your post and not giving us a link isnt going to make anyone go and search for your other post.

she, despite this, still had a thing for you and tried to help you by giving you an off point to transition from. she was telling you what she wanted you to do, not just talking to you about her bf, she was giving you strong feelings and you clearly could not make them about you.

I suggest going and asking her a deep question that shows intent or just doing what you shouldve done and answer her 2nd question with an answer that shows intent and purpose.
 

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I would still Next her if I were you she texted you about another guy that ended 2 years ago (Red Flag) and she didn't even apologize for the movie incident. Yea I would next her cause you don't want to be her emotional doormat.
 

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I did answer both questions seriously with intent and purpose. Im still tryin to decide if shes worth it though.
 

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I hope you're not still interested in dating this girl,because it looks to me like you're in or on a one-way trip to the friendzone. These questions she asked you seem like questions girls would ask their girlfriends.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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cky

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Seems like LJBF is the magic term here, bro. You're giving her advice on getting over his ex and she's actually talking about how she felt about HIM, not YOU.

Just next her or keep her as a friend.
 

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How I would answer the 2 questions -

1) Its hard to express it in a text message maybe we should meet up and talk about it

2) Move on and find a new home
 
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