Ok so I just transferred to a new college, and I've talked to maybe two girls from class or a tutorial, but I'm a boring guy. I literally do nothing other than browse the web, school, watch a few shows, gym, and that's it. I usually just start with the basics ie name, major, school work, the course, but then the convo fizzles out or I tell em cya later. What should I talk about in these situations? I'm not really so much afraid of talking to girls, but I just think I sometimes have nothing to say, and I don't want it to be awkward if it's a girl from a lab or tutorial.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What to talk to girls about in school when I'm boring?
- Thread starter JJ123x
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Are you single?" (After your regular convo). Immediately shows you are interested. Then, "how about we grab a drink?" or, "Do you take it in the ass?" That one worked for me believe it or not. But she was very slutty. Ask some girls out. Don't just talk. Be aggressive.
SharinganUser
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JJ123x said:
You don't have any passions???
Find something that gets you stoked.
theunflushables
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There is more to talk about than you think.
What do you browse on the web? Read any interesting articles that made you think? Funny stories and situations that you can relate to? Watched any television shows that were interesting and thought provoking?
Try this, carry around a pocket sized notebook with you. Any time you do something, come up with thought provoking questions or funny anecdotes about it.
Here is one I just made up for example (you can use this): "So I'm at the gym today and I start to notice there are bunch of these loud annoying guys with fake tans and ridiculous hair lifting weights. And I swear to god I even think I saw one of them fist pumping while his buddy was working out. Why are all these people walking around like they're "Jersey Shore" cast offs? Why do you think people want to act like this?"
I just put a few minutes into this so I'm sure it can be better. Just remember, make sure its DHV, throw some humor in it, and ask a question that she can respond to in depth.
If all else fails, there is nothing more that girls like to talk about than themselves. Just get them talking an keep asking questions. Eventually you'll hit a topic you both relate to and you can go more naturally from there.
What do you browse on the web? Read any interesting articles that made you think? Funny stories and situations that you can relate to? Watched any television shows that were interesting and thought provoking?
Try this, carry around a pocket sized notebook with you. Any time you do something, come up with thought provoking questions or funny anecdotes about it.
Here is one I just made up for example (you can use this): "So I'm at the gym today and I start to notice there are bunch of these loud annoying guys with fake tans and ridiculous hair lifting weights. And I swear to god I even think I saw one of them fist pumping while his buddy was working out. Why are all these people walking around like they're "Jersey Shore" cast offs? Why do you think people want to act like this?"
I just put a few minutes into this so I'm sure it can be better. Just remember, make sure its DHV, throw some humor in it, and ask a question that she can respond to in depth.
If all else fails, there is nothing more that girls like to talk about than themselves. Just get them talking an keep asking questions. Eventually you'll hit a topic you both relate to and you can go more naturally from there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
just build off questions. its really not hard
jj123x: start hanging out with friends, build social circles, start watching those cliche reality tv shows, you need to start training your social muscles.
Us telling you 5-10 topics to talk about, is going to get your 2 more minutes into a conversation, its not going to help the underlying problem you seem to have, of just lacking social intuition
Hope this helps
Us telling you 5-10 topics to talk about, is going to get your 2 more minutes into a conversation, its not going to help the underlying problem you seem to have, of just lacking social intuition
Hope this helps
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Truth. +1the305 said:
You should have a few "go-to topics," but you REALLY have to learn to just start making observations about things around you, things you've done, things she's done...keep things light and playful always. Tease. Yes, build off of her questions, but as is said all the time on this site, don't go into interview mode. The trick to doing this is to not talk too much! Get the number, get them in a new environment, and you'll have an easier time
