Ok so I just transferred to a new college, and I've talked to maybe two girls from class or a tutorial, but I'm a boring guy. I literally do nothing other than browse the web, school, watch a few shows, gym, and that's it. I usually just start with the basics ie name, major, school work, the course, but then the convo fizzles out or I tell em cya later. What should I talk about in these situations? I'm not really so much afraid of talking to girls, but I just think I sometimes have nothing to say, and I don't want it to be awkward if it's a girl from a lab or tutorial.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What to talk to girls about in school when I'm boring?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Are you single?" (After your regular convo). Immediately shows you are interested. Then, "how about we grab a drink?" or, "Do you take it in the ass?" That one worked for me believe it or not. But she was very slutty. Ask some girls out. Don't just talk. Be aggressive.
SharinganUser
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JJ123x said:
You don't have any passions???
Find something that gets you stoked.
theunflushables
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There is more to talk about than you think.
What do you browse on the web? Read any interesting articles that made you think? Funny stories and situations that you can relate to? Watched any television shows that were interesting and thought provoking?
Try this, carry around a pocket sized notebook with you. Any time you do something, come up with thought provoking questions or funny anecdotes about it.
Here is one I just made up for example (you can use this): "So I'm at the gym today and I start to notice there are bunch of these loud annoying guys with fake tans and ridiculous hair lifting weights. And I swear to god I even think I saw one of them fist pumping while his buddy was working out. Why are all these people walking around like they're "Jersey Shore" cast offs? Why do you think people want to act like this?"
I just put a few minutes into this so I'm sure it can be better. Just remember, make sure its DHV, throw some humor in it, and ask a question that she can respond to in depth.
If all else fails, there is nothing more that girls like to talk about than themselves. Just get them talking an keep asking questions. Eventually you'll hit a topic you both relate to and you can go more naturally from there.
What do you browse on the web? Read any interesting articles that made you think? Funny stories and situations that you can relate to? Watched any television shows that were interesting and thought provoking?
Try this, carry around a pocket sized notebook with you. Any time you do something, come up with thought provoking questions or funny anecdotes about it.
Here is one I just made up for example (you can use this): "So I'm at the gym today and I start to notice there are bunch of these loud annoying guys with fake tans and ridiculous hair lifting weights. And I swear to god I even think I saw one of them fist pumping while his buddy was working out. Why are all these people walking around like they're "Jersey Shore" cast offs? Why do you think people want to act like this?"
I just put a few minutes into this so I'm sure it can be better. Just remember, make sure its DHV, throw some humor in it, and ask a question that she can respond to in depth.
If all else fails, there is nothing more that girls like to talk about than themselves. Just get them talking an keep asking questions. Eventually you'll hit a topic you both relate to and you can go more naturally from there.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
just build off questions. its really not hard
jj123x: start hanging out with friends, build social circles, start watching those cliche reality tv shows, you need to start training your social muscles.
Us telling you 5-10 topics to talk about, is going to get your 2 more minutes into a conversation, its not going to help the underlying problem you seem to have, of just lacking social intuition
Hope this helps
Us telling you 5-10 topics to talk about, is going to get your 2 more minutes into a conversation, its not going to help the underlying problem you seem to have, of just lacking social intuition
Hope this helps
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Truth. +1the305 said:
You should have a few "go-to topics," but you REALLY have to learn to just start making observations about things around you, things you've done, things she's done...keep things light and playful always. Tease. Yes, build off of her questions, but as is said all the time on this site, don't go into interview mode. The trick to doing this is to not talk too much! Get the number, get them in a new environment, and you'll have an easier time
