"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what to talk bout if u already know her?

trippychip

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Ok so there this girl i like but ive pretty much given up on, but just out of curiousity what would u talk about with a girl if you already know her well. Like most people well tell you to get to know her but what if you already know most of that stuff?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sammo

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That's alot easier then talking to a girl you DONT know much about. If you know her, talk about what she feels about emotionally, develop rapport with her, this requires you to truely know her. Not think you know her.

To start a conversation with someone there are plenty of things you can do, talk to her about what she did on the weekend, those kind of things. However, this is the easy step, what you DONT want is to get stuck in the 'interview' conversation where you just shoot back questions back and forth. You have to take it to the next level and look for any oppurtunity to put the conversation on an emotional level, humour is a good gateway to getting to this level. However, alot of guys rely to much on humour and never get serious with the girl, they don't touch the inner her ;)
 

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Originally posted by gRiM999
two words:

Abstract Thought.

Talk about whatever comes to mind; just make sure you're USING your mind (imagination!).

Just don't be a friggin weirdo.
Preach it , brother, preach it.:cheer:
 
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