timmylivingalie
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I know this has probaly been beat to death on here, but whats a good comeback when she says that?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What to say when the chic says she's got a boyfriend?
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
I just say: "Can't you have male friends?"
scrouds
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I would just ignore or say "cool".
If you really want a comeback, "me too, he's just super"
But search, there's a ton of stuff on here and out on the interwebs.
If you really want a comeback, "me too, he's just super"
But search, there's a ton of stuff on here and out on the interwebs.
timmylivingalie
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Im not used to them telling me that. The other night I asked chic for her number and she gave me the boyfriend crap I just said well give me your email address then no reason you cant have two boyfriends.
Naughty Ninja
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timmylivingalie said:
Smile and tell her: So? I have a girlfriend, sister and a pet rock.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
There is an old school rap song, I don't remember the name since rap is not really my thing....but, you could say using lyrics from song,"What does your man have to do with me?" Or even better: I am not trying to date your boyfriend....I understand he has a lady friend, but I am trying to date you.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
I would typically respect her wishes and back off.
But if she's giving you other buying signals (most AFCs don't really understand what these are) then just keep smiling and tell her to put your drinks on his credit card.
But if she's giving you other buying signals (most AFCs don't really understand what these are) then just keep smiling and tell her to put your drinks on his credit card.
nice meeting you...good bye
seriously - she isn't attracted to you. You can spend uptine hours trying to get her to like you but why not just go meet someone else who is instantly attracted to you and WANTS to make things work vs. someone that doesn't?
If you are hearing this ALL THE TIME, it's probably because you are doing something wrong. Possibly showing too much interest too soon (without screening her, getting to know her)
seriously - she isn't attracted to you. You can spend uptine hours trying to get her to like you but why not just go meet someone else who is instantly attracted to you and WANTS to make things work vs. someone that doesn't?
If you are hearing this ALL THE TIME, it's probably because you are doing something wrong. Possibly showing too much interest too soon (without screening her, getting to know her)
I'd say " no worries - bye" .. There are plenty of beautiful single girls out there. Most of them have guy friends or are dating. But if she tells you she got a boyfriend then she's serious about him and that is a force field that's not easily broken. Wasted efforts.... look for single girls.
timmylivingalie
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In my earlier post I stated Im not used to them telling me that. Not hearing it all the time.yuppaz said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Had something like this happen at Starbucks over the weekend. I was getting some work done and this girl starts openly hitting on me out of the blue.
We hit it off pretty well for the most part, and as soon as she realized the next step was to exchange numbers she stood up, called her BF on her cell, and walked off with a "hi honey" like the conversation with me never happened.
Indifference is always a good approach when they throw stuff like this at you.
We hit it off pretty well for the most part, and as soon as she realized the next step was to exchange numbers she stood up, called her BF on her cell, and walked off with a "hi honey" like the conversation with me never happened.
Indifference is always a good approach when they throw stuff like this at you.
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If the chic legitimately has a boyfriend then you shouldn't be going there any ways.
If the chic is lying about having a boyfriend just so you don't continute hitting on her then whats the point? Move on to some other chic who isn't trying to shut you down before you get started.
If the chic is lying about having a boyfriend just so you don't continute hitting on her then whats the point? Move on to some other chic who isn't trying to shut you down before you get started.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
did you get the memo about how all hot girls have boyfriends... when they don't like the guy.
If she wants you, that sentence never comes out. Seriously, and if you play it well enough, you get to say "well, I have a girlfriend, whats the big deal?" If she somehow mentions it while you are making out/fvcking/whatever.
There was a while where the only girls I seemed to get were hot chics with boyfriends who wanted something different. For males, having high status/looks/money is a license to cheat. For women, being hot generally is a license to cheat. But she will normally only cheat if the guy is hotter than her bf.
If she wants you, that sentence never comes out. Seriously, and if you play it well enough, you get to say "well, I have a girlfriend, whats the big deal?" If she somehow mentions it while you are making out/fvcking/whatever.
There was a while where the only girls I seemed to get were hot chics with boyfriends who wanted something different. For males, having high status/looks/money is a license to cheat. For women, being hot generally is a license to cheat. But she will normally only cheat if the guy is hotter than her bf.
Atom Smasher
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Agreed, although I wouldn't write her off immediately. She might utter that phrase because she is unsure of you.
My two comeback sre:
"Cool. Now you can have two!" With perhaps a "this is your lucky day" added on, depending on the woman.
The other is:
"Really? Is he going to marry you?" I like acw's answer, along the same lines. If she is just sh!t testing you'll know whether to pursue of cut bait at this point.
My two comeback sre:
"Cool. Now you can have two!" With perhaps a "this is your lucky day" added on, depending on the woman.
The other is:
"Really? Is he going to marry you?" I like acw's answer, along the same lines. If she is just sh!t testing you'll know whether to pursue of cut bait at this point.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.