timmylivingalie
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I know this has probaly been beat to death on here, but whats a good comeback when she says that?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What to say when the chic says she's got a boyfriend?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
I just say: "Can't you have male friends?"
scrouds
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I would just ignore or say "cool".
If you really want a comeback, "me too, he's just super"
But search, there's a ton of stuff on here and out on the interwebs.
If you really want a comeback, "me too, he's just super"
But search, there's a ton of stuff on here and out on the interwebs.
timmylivingalie
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Im not used to them telling me that. The other night I asked chic for her number and she gave me the boyfriend crap I just said well give me your email address then no reason you cant have two boyfriends.
Naughty Ninja
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timmylivingalie said:
Smile and tell her: So? I have a girlfriend, sister and a pet rock.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SoldMySoul
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There is an old school rap song, I don't remember the name since rap is not really my thing....but, you could say using lyrics from song,"What does your man have to do with me?" Or even better: I am not trying to date your boyfriend....I understand he has a lady friend, but I am trying to date you.
speed dawg
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I would typically respect her wishes and back off.
But if she's giving you other buying signals (most AFCs don't really understand what these are) then just keep smiling and tell her to put your drinks on his credit card.
But if she's giving you other buying signals (most AFCs don't really understand what these are) then just keep smiling and tell her to put your drinks on his credit card.
nice meeting you...good bye
seriously - she isn't attracted to you. You can spend uptine hours trying to get her to like you but why not just go meet someone else who is instantly attracted to you and WANTS to make things work vs. someone that doesn't?
If you are hearing this ALL THE TIME, it's probably because you are doing something wrong. Possibly showing too much interest too soon (without screening her, getting to know her)
seriously - she isn't attracted to you. You can spend uptine hours trying to get her to like you but why not just go meet someone else who is instantly attracted to you and WANTS to make things work vs. someone that doesn't?
If you are hearing this ALL THE TIME, it's probably because you are doing something wrong. Possibly showing too much interest too soon (without screening her, getting to know her)
I'd say " no worries - bye" .. There are plenty of beautiful single girls out there. Most of them have guy friends or are dating. But if she tells you she got a boyfriend then she's serious about him and that is a force field that's not easily broken. Wasted efforts.... look for single girls.
timmylivingalie
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In my earlier post I stated Im not used to them telling me that. Not hearing it all the time.yuppaz said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Had something like this happen at Starbucks over the weekend. I was getting some work done and this girl starts openly hitting on me out of the blue.
We hit it off pretty well for the most part, and as soon as she realized the next step was to exchange numbers she stood up, called her BF on her cell, and walked off with a "hi honey" like the conversation with me never happened.
Indifference is always a good approach when they throw stuff like this at you.
We hit it off pretty well for the most part, and as soon as she realized the next step was to exchange numbers she stood up, called her BF on her cell, and walked off with a "hi honey" like the conversation with me never happened.
Indifference is always a good approach when they throw stuff like this at you.
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If the chic legitimately has a boyfriend then you shouldn't be going there any ways.
If the chic is lying about having a boyfriend just so you don't continute hitting on her then whats the point? Move on to some other chic who isn't trying to shut you down before you get started.
If the chic is lying about having a boyfriend just so you don't continute hitting on her then whats the point? Move on to some other chic who isn't trying to shut you down before you get started.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
did you get the memo about how all hot girls have boyfriends... when they don't like the guy.
If she wants you, that sentence never comes out. Seriously, and if you play it well enough, you get to say "well, I have a girlfriend, whats the big deal?" If she somehow mentions it while you are making out/fvcking/whatever.
There was a while where the only girls I seemed to get were hot chics with boyfriends who wanted something different. For males, having high status/looks/money is a license to cheat. For women, being hot generally is a license to cheat. But she will normally only cheat if the guy is hotter than her bf.
If she wants you, that sentence never comes out. Seriously, and if you play it well enough, you get to say "well, I have a girlfriend, whats the big deal?" If she somehow mentions it while you are making out/fvcking/whatever.
There was a while where the only girls I seemed to get were hot chics with boyfriends who wanted something different. For males, having high status/looks/money is a license to cheat. For women, being hot generally is a license to cheat. But she will normally only cheat if the guy is hotter than her bf.
Atom Smasher
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Agreed, although I wouldn't write her off immediately. She might utter that phrase because she is unsure of you.
My two comeback sre:
"Cool. Now you can have two!" With perhaps a "this is your lucky day" added on, depending on the woman.
The other is:
"Really? Is he going to marry you?" I like acw's answer, along the same lines. If she is just sh!t testing you'll know whether to pursue of cut bait at this point.
My two comeback sre:
"Cool. Now you can have two!" With perhaps a "this is your lucky day" added on, depending on the woman.
The other is:
"Really? Is he going to marry you?" I like acw's answer, along the same lines. If she is just sh!t testing you'll know whether to pursue of cut bait at this point.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.