"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What to say when she says "i miss you"?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rtrev64

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Really, if you and her are not exclusive, it dont mean anything, it could be a good thing for a bit, yall see each other and show physically with each other how much you two miss each other but that will wear off and all the I miss you text really dont mean anything if you are dating another girl because well the one who said she misses you is prolly saying that to the new BF or guy friend..

Ill just say, me too..
 

azanon

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Stéphane said:
You guys are over thinking this. Just say I miss you too like a normal person.
This is the right one. Remember, you didn't start it, so it's no big deal to reciprocate. Where you need to worry is if YOU are the one saying I miss you, first.

There's ****y and funny, and there's just being a punk-ass dips***. At least half of the responses so far fall into the latter category.
 

bitteorca

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azanon said:
This is the right one. Remember, you didn't start it, so it's no big deal to reciprocate. Where you need to worry is if YOU are the one saying I miss you, first.

There's ****y and funny, and there's just being a punk-ass dips***. At least half of the responses so far fall into the latter category.
I think I agree with you.

In my particular case, I have never initiated it, I just reciprocate it. I would never initiate it either so early on.

I also think that some of the responses here are a bit TOO A-holeish. They're also a bit see through IMO. Girls can sniff this alpha cologne that AFCs put on to disguise their true smells.

IMO, you should reciprocate, if you want to/if you do miss her. If that means she goes off you, or she was just playing games, the girl's not worth it anyway!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DonJuan11

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horaholic said:
But, throwing your phone across the room over that was a pretty chump move. You cant let women get to you like that, and if you ever SHOW them they get to you, you're DONE.

Women need us to be an emotional ROCK, which is a catch 22, cuz they complain about guys being insensitive, yet if we show any emotional weakness, her respect for us dies.

I cannot stress this enough. NEVER "REACT" to a woman. Take your own action, but dont let anything a woman does influence our behaviour, positively OR negatively, but especially negatively. At least hide it from her with your life. That is the most important DJ concept there is.
EXACTLY. She could say she is dying to have sex with you when she's 3000 miles away. She could say she wants to marry you at the same time she is sleeping with another guy. She could say she loves you while she is waiting for prince charming.

Words don't mean anything, it only counts when she puts the pedal to the metal.
 
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