"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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what to say when a girl thinks youre just using her for sex?

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2-D said:
Have you ever actually said to a girl you're using her for sex when she asked? I did that once because I listened to David DeAngelo for too long and the girl was really upset. If she's actually serious and does think that, then these witty remarks are just going to cause more trouble than good. I promise. Go try it out in real life if you think that'd work.
Wow your actually buying this "using" crap, are you so sh!t in bed that she gets nothing out of it and is indeed being used?

I'll let you in on a secret you misguided fool, believe it or not you get to a point when she can intuitively tell that some guys are fully aware that she loves the thought of them "using" her for sex. :eek: I know, crazy isnt it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There's a big difference with a girl who enjoys being used while she is having sex and a feeling that she is being used for sex. The first one is good, the second one is bad no matter what titman or the rest of the armchair theoretics say (I can do ad hominem as well ;)). Listen to whitepimp or 2-D, they seem to know what they are talking about.

Flip the scenario to another scene. Let say that you enjoy the company of a friend but you always end up paying for snacks and stuff when you watch movies and you buy him more beers at the pub than he buys you. The friendship is strong but this **** starts to gnaw in your mind that maybe he is using you for the beers and ****. Imagine what would happen if he said "Yes, I am using you... now fetch me some pretzels". Using implies that you do not have any respect for that persons wishes and besides some broken and messed up women any good woman will not accept this.

What you need to do is to deflect this the same way you deflect the slut mark a woman gets from taking someone home from a bar. Even if you are using her for sex, don't let her know that.
 

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Wow your actually buying this "using" crap, are you so sh!t in bed that she gets nothing out of it and is indeed being used?

I'll let you in on a secret you misguided fool, believe it or not you get to a point when she can intuitively tell that some guys are fully aware that she loves the thought of them "using" her for sex. :eek: I know, crazy isnt it.
Pretty fvcking insane, yer.

Nothing I've experienced though. Hopefully OP's girl also loves that thought, or some serious sh1t is gonna go down.

Also you are speaking from personal experience right? If so fvcking congrats for being Zeus in bed.

Also respect to ATP, right on the mark.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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