You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Wow your actually buying this "using" crap, are you so sh!t in bed that she gets nothing out of it and is indeed being used?2-D said:
I know, crazy isnt it.You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
). Listen to whitepimp or 2-D, they seem to know what they are talking about. Pretty fvcking insane, yer.( . )( . ) said:Wow your actually buying this "using" crap, are you so sh!t in bed that she gets nothing out of it and is indeed being used?
I'll let you in on a secret you misguided fool, believe it or not you get to a point when she can intuitively tell that some guys are fully aware that she loves the thought of them "using" her for sex.
Cheers I do my best, at least on the first hookup, and congrats on being so sh!t in bed that you are indeed believing that your "using" her.2-D said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.