Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what to say to "We need to take things slow"

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I am thrown this question "we will be having a relationship right" me: of course. Than she asks hey your going to have to take it slow with me. (now we had sex already) i messed up and made a somewhat defend myself statement.
What could i have said to this test thrown at me?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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a few suggestions...

If she sais to you something like " you need to take it slow" you can reply by saying something like "there's no rush" or " ok no problem, i'm not in a rush" or " yeah, we got plenty time"

Those should do the job just fine.;)

Good Luck .
 

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I hate it when women try to set rules even before the game has begun. I like women that can roll with things as they come and not be so afraid to roll with it.

I'd just tell her that we'll take things as they come, no need to worry about things that haven't happened.
 

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ok no problem = boring! cant give her her what she wants.

we will take things as they come... brilliant
thanks much guys

is there something funny i could say to that?
 

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Why not say this:

Time is precious. If we really like each other, why waste time and taking time , and delyaing and shyt. Why not get to the good part. (or 'Why not make the best enjoyment of each other)


I said this to a girl, and it works. My girl fell for this. And I'm saying this not to lure her, but because I actually think so. If you really like each other, why waste precious time. Make it the most romantic, or lustful you can ever make.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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3 suggestions...

What to say:


Her: "We're gonna have to take it slow"

You: "why? u gonna give me a speeding ticket? "

or

Her: "We're gonna have to take it slow"

You: "ok, let me just shift back into 1st gear, u want me to put my seat-belt on too?"

or

Her: "we're gonna have to take it slow

You: "You want me to stop time as well?"

( Please Note that all these are said in a joking manner. )

Well, i hope this was of help to you;)

Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by Ladiesssman
Why not say this:

Time is precious. If we really like each other, why waste time and taking time , and delyaing and shyt. Why not get to the good part. (or 'Why not make the best enjoyment of each other)


I said this to a girl, and it works. My girl fell for this. And I'm saying this not to lure her, but because I actually think so. If you really like each other, why waste precious time. Make it the most romantic, or lustful you can ever make.
Good advise, as long as you dont come out as pressuring her into doing anything, all is good.;)
 

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Originally posted by ck1mark
I am thrown this question "we will be having a relationship right" me: of course. Than she asks hey your going to have to take it slow with me. (now we had sex already) i messed up and made a somewhat defend myself statement.
What could i have said to this test thrown at me?
She said this AFTER you nailed her??? Obviously, her insane little brain is trying to test you somehow. I'm old now and this thing has happened to me about ten thousand times. They NEVER stop!

What I'd do is, acknowledge the test with a quick wink, or a wiseass comment like, "we're still gonna screw, right?" or "You mean we're not MARRIED already?" while SIDESTEPPING this comment. It's a clumsy, nervous move on her part. If you take it head-on, you're only going to make yourself look bad. She's trying to see if you'll crumble and wuss out. But even if you say something non -wussy like, "well whatever, I'll see ya," you're still playing with fire IMO. Make your comment BRIEF and DON'T let it turn into a CONVERSATION.

Duck that jab and continue on, if you play your cards right, you'll still end up getting 0ral at the end of the eve.


Much luck and much love, Frank.
 

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You can act releived, and say, 'i am so glad you feel the same way, i have been meaning to say the same thing for a while. I felt you were coming on a little strong, and i think we should keep our options open'.
 

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Originally posted by Tao of Steve
...and i think we should keep our options open'.
That's gold... I'm filing that one away for 'special' occasions... ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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your too much guys. thats some funny sh**


damn i totally fkd it up.. i was like i like taking things slow.. blah blah boring
 

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I'm always fond of.

HB: "We need to take things slow."
Me: Damn straight, I'm tired of you pressuring me into these situations.
 

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Hanz

Good one...

WHatever you do, don't engage in a serious conversation on this. ... this is a test, she is trying to gain control, for some reason... don't go down that path!

Dietzcoi
 

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You stole the words right out of my typing finger Hanz.

Another good twist is to give her a real passionate kiss just as you're finishing saying it. A bit of playful confusion is good.
 
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