"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what to say in first email, after email close?

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I know this sounds odd but I approached a girl on Monday in metro and talked for some time, but haven't got back to her. so what should I say in the e-mail to not seem like some creep, and at least get a response back...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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u talked to her..........in person.............did u get her email.......why did u not get her number.

When u call a chic its for a purpose..........direct to the point and state your purpose,

EMAILS ARE FOR extracting conversation transitions.........number requests, IM user names, etc. Humor is key here.
 

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yeah be like... "hey if you want me to talk to you again, I'll need your phone number, because theres a red flashing sign on my computer that says it's going to blow up in 5 seconds... uh oh I gotta go bye!!"
 

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THanks

Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
yeah be like... "hey if you want me to talk to you again, I'll need your phone number, because theres a red flashing sign on my computer that says it's going to blow up in 5 seconds... uh oh I gotta go bye!!"
man for the idea, it never hurts to try, it ain't going anywhere anyways right..
 

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Oh for cripes sake fellas, what are you trying to be, pen pals? Just say that you're going to be somewhere at a certain time and she should meet you there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Canadien said:
it ain't going anywhere anyways right..
yeah thats the thing.. for the average person, you probably succeed with less than 10% of the girls you approach, so don't expect much unless they somehow admire you a lot.
 

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Wolf said:
"Hey I'm gonna go to *place* today, you can come tag along if you like"

Hmm I dunno whether it's as effective over email...
"I'm going to be at [someplace] on [someday] at [sometime], you should meet me there."
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If you must wait until the last minute and want to ask a woman to meet you somewhere that same day, pick up the telephone.
 
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