"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know this sounds odd but I approached a girl on Monday in metro and talked for some time, but haven't got back to her. so what should I say in the e-mail to not seem like some creep, and at least get a response back...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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u talked to her..........in person.............did u get her email.......why did u not get her number.

When u call a chic its for a purpose..........direct to the point and state your purpose,

EMAILS ARE FOR extracting conversation transitions.........number requests, IM user names, etc. Humor is key here.
 

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yeah be like... "hey if you want me to talk to you again, I'll need your phone number, because theres a red flashing sign on my computer that says it's going to blow up in 5 seconds... uh oh I gotta go bye!!"
 

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THanks

Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
yeah be like... "hey if you want me to talk to you again, I'll need your phone number, because theres a red flashing sign on my computer that says it's going to blow up in 5 seconds... uh oh I gotta go bye!!"
man for the idea, it never hurts to try, it ain't going anywhere anyways right..
 

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Oh for cripes sake fellas, what are you trying to be, pen pals? Just say that you're going to be somewhere at a certain time and she should meet you there.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Canadien said:
it ain't going anywhere anyways right..
yeah thats the thing.. for the average person, you probably succeed with less than 10% of the girls you approach, so don't expect much unless they somehow admire you a lot.
 

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Wolf said:
"Hey I'm gonna go to *place* today, you can come tag along if you like"

Hmm I dunno whether it's as effective over email...
"I'm going to be at [someplace] on [someday] at [sometime], you should meet me there."
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If you must wait until the last minute and want to ask a woman to meet you somewhere that same day, pick up the telephone.
 
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