"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What to say if a girl catches you looking?

base2ball2boy2

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I was inspecting this fine HB 8 the other day, and I contemplated the concept of letting her catch me inspecting her rear end (which looked fantastic in the pants she was wearing). But I couldn't think of anything witty to say in order to lighten up the situation. Stun me with your wisdom and creativity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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eaglez1177

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^Hahahaha

If a girl catches me looking, I dont spend time thinking about what to say to her; I act on impulse and go right ahead for the approach
 

zekko

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I'll confess I do let them catch me looking sometimes, it just sort of amuses me. I'll be looking at their butt, and they'll turn around, and as soon as they look at my eyes, I'll look away quickly with a sort of embarassed grin on my face. Maybe that's AFC, I don't know, but I get the sense it's kind of a bonding experience for us (seriously). It kind of says, I know you know I was looking, but hey I liked what I saw.

I'm in a LTR though, so I don't have to proceed to an approach. I usually do this with girls I know. I'm not recommending it as some sort of pickup method by any means(lol). Just a bit of fun.
 
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