What to make of this.

[Aspire]

The person I consider my best friend is a female bartender and the bar that is my main hangout. A 10 in my book but she has a boyfriend and I respect that. On one occasion I was 2 feet away from her and she was conversing with another bartender. She said "My boyfriend's best friend, he comes across as gay but I don't think he is gay because he likes having sex with me." From that I gathered that she is not exclusive and that her boyfriend is fine with it. I began wondering if I could have it with her.

Well, months later I said "I will ask you only once, can I have sex with you?" After further education I realize that was probably not the best way to go about it but anyway she just gave a one word answer: no. Minutes later I told her I hoped I did not ruin our friendship and she said "you didn't ruin anything, but that was inappropriate and you need to realize I have a boyfriend." A seeming contradiction of what I thought she said before all though it is possible I misheard her the first time.

Now I am not asking what I did wrong although I welcome any feedback on that. My question is what it may imply about her (again assuming I heard her correctly).

 

[marmel75]

If you dont know what you did wrong I'm not sure any of us can legitimately help you here.

 

[Dingo]

Ugh...

 

[Billtx49]

"I will ask you only once, can I have sex with you?"

Surprised you didn’t get slapped. Men aren’t usually that sexually direct with a physically unknown woman unless she’s a hooker…
The takeaway from that situation could well be that the gay probably has considerably more game than zero…

 

[Banelord]

Nice guy incel...u need help son.

 

[ohrein]

1. If your best friend is cheating on her boyfriend, she's a cvnt and you should tell her that. But maybe they've been having threesomes and it's above board. Who knows? I'd have thought your best friend would tell you.

2. You're so far in the friend zone you need a military extraction. This girl has negative attraction to you. You're like a brother.

You should almost never communicate overtly with women, especially when it comes to sex. Acta, non verba, (actions, not words). You use touch and eye contact to escalate to sex. What you're saying is actually almost irrelevant sometimes. You could turn a woman on while whispering pancake in her ear if the rest of your physical cues are on point.

My question is what it may imply about her (again assuming I heard her correctly).

Either she's cheating or her and her boyfriend get up to some kinky sh1t with threesomes and/or cucking.

What I want to know is why you care enough to post it here? I think you're in love with her and are friend zoned hard. My advice you didn't ask for? You need to start getting out there and dating some other women.

 

[Aspire]

1. If your best friend is cheating on her boyfriend, she's a cvnt and you should tell her that. But maybe they've been having threesomes and it's above board. Who knows? I'd have thought your best friend would tell you.

2. You're so far in the friend zone you need a military extraction. This girl has negative attraction to you. You're like a brother.

You should almost never communicate overtly with women, especially when it comes to sex. Acta, non verba, (actions, not words). You use touch and eye contact to escalate to sex. What you're saying is actually almost irrelevant sometimes. You could turn a woman on while whispering pancake in her ear if the rest of your physical cues are on point.



Either she's cheating or her and her boyfriend get up to some kinky sh1t with threesomes and/or cucking.

What I want to know is why you care enough to post it here? I think you're in love with her and are friend zoned hard. My advice you didn't ask for? You need to start getting out there and dating some other women.

Based on Pook, you are probably right on every point.

 

[ohrein]

Based on Pook, you are probably right on every point.

Pook's stuff is gold. Get out there and use it.

 

[flowtheory]

2. You're so far in the friend zone you need a military extraction.

Lmao! Best line