I'm shy and socially awkward. I'm not a complete social outcast, and I'm definitely a whole lot better than i used to be a year or two ago where i would literally just stand awkwardly and not talk to anyone at lunches. I have several good (male) friends and a fairly large amount of friendly acquaintances that would be considered "popular" at my school and usually either go out or have someone over every weekend. I am really smart, used to play a lot of video games and basically only do advanced maths and science classes at school (with the exception of Hpe) which i feel has contributed to this but I have for the most part shaken off the nerd stereotype. However, I'm really bad at holding conversations and knowing what to say to people if I don't know them well, and so there are a total two girls outside of my family that i can talk to normally which is my good friend's girlfriend and my ex. Is there any hope for me to be good with people/girls or even normal? and If so what steps do I have to take?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what to do
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- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Of course there is hope. You just have to ask yourself if you're willing to go through some pretty bad times to get to some good times.
You will not get good fast, it will be a long slow process but if you put in the effort in the right areas, you will make progress.
You will not get good fast, it will be a long slow process but if you put in the effort in the right areas, you will make progress.
NorwegianDJ
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keep talking with people and keep practicing, during my school and college years I was the nerd, good grades but also the one with several acquantances, high school I pretty much was known and talked with half of the whole school, college i did known several people during that time, did I date a lot during that time? no most of time I didn't care enough to date anyone more then a month before I was tired of her, and that was more during college years then high school.
thing is you come ehre and have a lot of reading to do, keep calm and practice, even though what MR Wright said could scare, its the truth you will have to deal with several new things if you want to improve, so I say read the DJ bible and start to practice.
thing is you come ehre and have a lot of reading to do, keep calm and practice, even though what MR Wright said could scare, its the truth you will have to deal with several new things if you want to improve, so I say read the DJ bible and start to practice.