I'm shy and socially awkward. I'm not a complete social outcast, and I'm definitely a whole lot better than i used to be a year or two ago where i would literally just stand awkwardly and not talk to anyone at lunches. I have several good (male) friends and a fairly large amount of friendly acquaintances that would be considered "popular" at my school and usually either go out or have someone over every weekend. I am really smart, used to play a lot of video games and basically only do advanced maths and science classes at school (with the exception of Hpe) which i feel has contributed to this but I have for the most part shaken off the nerd stereotype. However, I'm really bad at holding conversations and knowing what to say to people if I don't know them well, and so there are a total two girls outside of my family that i can talk to normally which is my good friend's girlfriend and my ex. Is there any hope for me to be good with people/girls or even normal? and If so what steps do I have to take?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
what to do
- Thread starter than
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Of course there is hope. You just have to ask yourself if you're willing to go through some pretty bad times to get to some good times.
You will not get good fast, it will be a long slow process but if you put in the effort in the right areas, you will make progress.
You will not get good fast, it will be a long slow process but if you put in the effort in the right areas, you will make progress.
NorwegianDJ
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 8, 2010
- Messages
- 2,553
- Reaction score
- 83
Well, you're here.
keep talking with people and keep practicing, during my school and college years I was the nerd, good grades but also the one with several acquantances, high school I pretty much was known and talked with half of the whole school, college i did known several people during that time, did I date a lot during that time? no most of time I didn't care enough to date anyone more then a month before I was tired of her, and that was more during college years then high school.
thing is you come ehre and have a lot of reading to do, keep calm and practice, even though what MR Wright said could scare, its the truth you will have to deal with several new things if you want to improve, so I say read the DJ bible and start to practice.
thing is you come ehre and have a lot of reading to do, keep calm and practice, even though what MR Wright said could scare, its the truth you will have to deal with several new things if you want to improve, so I say read the DJ bible and start to practice.