"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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xenten

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Hey. I'm having trouble right now. You may have seen my other posts, but here is an update. I was with a girl for 1.5 years and she wanted a break in January. We got back together in February for 3 days and I broke it off. In that time I have been dating a girl for 1.5 months and we click. Me and the first girl got back together last Tuesday and I thought I made a mistake; so I ended it last Friday. Now I can't stop thinking about her. I broke it off with her the first time because she has major family problems and bipolar disorder; also she's very plump. I feel like I can talk about anything with her. I'm not so sure I want to go back to her but I feel like I do. But I don't want to get rid of the other girl I have been dating. No matter which girl I am with I think of the other one when we are together; if that makes since. This is just a really confusing situation I am in that I want to be out of without doubting my decision. Any help?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mavrick

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Your mind is messing with you. Instead of letting it control you with confusing thoughts, why don't you control it? Tell your mind what you want without indecisiveness.

The women of the past are just what they are. The past. There was a good reason why you dumped her and you really shouldn't bring her back in to your life. Stop living in the past because I can promise you that it will never be the same.

The grass is NOT greener on the other side. Stick with what you have, but back off some. You act like you have to have a woman in your life, which is not the case. Have some dignity and respect for yourself and cut the old, plump chick off. Move forward. Don't look back.
 
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xenten

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Thanks Maverick. I do feel like I need some woman in my life, subconsciously. And I know that needs to be put to a stop. Everything is better with the new girl, I just need to control my mind. I appreciate it.
 
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I'm glad this came up because something was said to me tonight about this behavior and I didn't want to start a whole new thread.

I asked an ex (yes THAT one...groan) just to explain what goes through his mind and why he does this to all these girls, it was quite a civil talk actually..and I told him I just wanted a male perspective so I could stop hating him so much and maybe just realize its a guy thing and not so much a HIM thing. And his response was:

"haha well i cant say for all guys but the grass is always greener on the other side. I dont know ... i guess i am just never happy with what i got and then once its gone you miss it. Thats how it goes i guess. I dont know why i dont want to date anyone. I guess i just dont want to get into something and then regret it."

I asked what he was referring to in terms of "once its gone, you miss it" and he said "lots of things, you included..." and realize that he will always be the type to want what he can't have, once he has it, doesn't want it, once its gone he does. I was going to ask this board if ALL guys are just like this...so I can just accept that its not ME...but meh...

Anyway, that's your problem my dear. You don't want her when you have her, you do when you don't. Let it go.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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