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What to do with the family members

Stephen89

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If you have read past threads, I've had toxic family members and I have got bullied and abused.

The tables have turned now and I am moving out and moving out to a good area too. Renting on my own income. They thought they could play the ostracising, manipulating game, but they cannot ignore things now.

They're not really willing to listen to me and dismiss everything.

I'm having a tough home life and my father and sister do not wish to listen, nor do they say anything. I can have my own life and do things just like everyone else is suppose to? I'm a man now, does they want to listen? What happens if someone challenges them and says 'but your son/brother' said he is doing this, that, 'why are you reacting negative' say nothing. Maybe I should forget about my sister.

They don't listen, my father's needs, financial needs which I give money every week I catered for. What's he acting timid for to others?

My sister again, I am moving out and approaching women, online, she doesn't say the right things to others.

Online comp sci degree: dismiss that even with proof

First time I said:

Moving out: say where I get money from and dismiss that even with proof, I told everyone and will move out
Going abroad in few months: again they dismiss that
Income: dismiss that

They think I have no income, I'm nothing.

So they have no respect for me and playing me around. I'm afraid they call the authorities with everything, what's their problem, only do it to me.

I do not need her approval, but who is she to play with my life? Get angry when I say I'm moving out, doing this?
 
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Check out Joshua Fluke's channel on youtube. He does quite a few videos on how his family was using him for money then lying to him and using the money for drugs and stupid sh!t instead of trying to get their lives back on track. They would only be nice to him when they wanted something from him.

Things are likely going to change when you start to really make money and have a fun life. But if they can't be supportive of you, fvck em. You're entitled to disown your family if they're garbage people.
 

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Actions speak louder than words.

Stop looking to your family for approval and support.

Make your self a list of what you have to do to be happy with where you are for yourself.

If you are truly a self sufficient adult with an income source and place to live, go do it. If they have a conservatorship on you because of some developmental, mental or physical issues then that is a different story...
 

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Stop looking to your family for approval and support.
I agree. The worst thing you can do is doing the long ever holy quest for your parents to one day say:
Son I'm proud of you.

F'uck that.
It only leads to misery and self sabotage and loss of years of your life doing it. (Example: You start doing thing you don't really want for the approval of your dad/mom etc.)

All you need is that you are proud of yourself and you life choices.
That is all what matters.

Yet for some reason we tend to chase this meaningless approval for no reason.
 
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If you have read past threads, I've had toxic family members and I have got bullied and abused.

The tables have turned now and I am moving out and moving out to a good area too. Renting on my own income. They thought they could play the ostracising, manipulating game, but they cannot ignore things now.

They're not really willing to listen to me and dismiss everything.

I'm having a tough home life and my father and sister do not wish to listen, nor do they say anything. I can have my own life and do things just like everyone else is suppose to? I'm a man now, does they want to listen? What happens if someone challenges them and says 'but your son/brother' said he is doing this, that, 'why are you reacting negative' say nothing. Maybe I should forget about my sister.

They don't listen, my father's needs, financial needs which I give money every week I catered for. What's he acting timid for to others?

My sister again, I am moving out and approaching women, online, she doesn't say the right things to others.

Online comp sci degree: dismiss that even with proof

First time I said:

Moving out: say where I get money from and dismiss that even with proof, I told everyone and will move out
Going abroad in few months: again they dismiss that
Income: dismiss that

They think I have no income, I'm nothing.

So they have no respect for me and playing me around. I'm afraid they call the authorities with everything, what's their problem, only do it to me.

I do not need her approval, but who is she to play with my life? Get angry when I say I'm moving out, doing this?
First off, proud of you man.

Second, you made the right move by moving out. One of the hardest things I've had to do is cut ties with people that do not contribute anything of value to my life or even worse devalue it. This includes family members. And know it is okay to do that.

Third, you live your life. No one is going to live your life for you, that was given to you and you alone. That is your path, walk it.

Use this time to build yourself up and do things that make YOU happy.

Last but not least, simply cut contact with them for a while.


Modern Man Advice
 

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If you have read past threads, I've had toxic family members and I have got bullied and abused.

The tables have turned now and I am moving out and moving out to a good area too. Renting on my own income. They thought they could play the ostracising, manipulating game, but they cannot ignore things now.

They're not really willing to listen to me and dismiss everything.

I'm having a tough home life and my father and sister do not wish to listen, nor do they say anything. I can have my own life and do things just like everyone else is suppose to? I'm a man now, does they want to listen? What happens if someone challenges them and says 'but your son/brother' said he is doing this, that, 'why are you reacting negative' say nothing. Maybe I should forget about my sister.

They don't listen, my father's needs, financial needs which I give money every week I catered for. What's he acting timid for to others?

My sister again, I am moving out and approaching women, online, she doesn't say the right things to others.

Online comp sci degree: dismiss that even with proof

First time I said:

Moving out: say where I get money from and dismiss that even with proof, I told everyone and will move out
Going abroad in few months: again they dismiss that
Income: dismiss that

They think I have no income, I'm nothing.

So they have no respect for me and playing me around. I'm afraid they call the authorities with everything, what's their problem, only do it to me.

I do not need her approval, but who is she to play with my life? Get angry when I say I'm moving out, doing this?
Why would they call the authorities on you? You didn't do anything wrong.

Are you able to move out sooner than you plan to?
 

Stephen89

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Thanks guys.

No one deserves to be treated like this.

They deliberately play games, ostracise, act sly, manipulative.

They're do not wish to listen.

However I am moving out in a few weeks.

Also in the community too they are ignoring any fine details and anything positive and just wish to play games.

I'm being silenced and undermined.
 
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Stephen89

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I'm a man now, 31, I can move out if i wish and have my own life.

They are clever ostracising.

They are trying to silence and manipulate me and others about me.
 

Stephen89

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If you have read past threads, I've had toxic family members and I have got bullied and abused.

The tables have turned now and I am moving out and moving out to a good area too. Renting on my own income. They thought they could play the ostracising, manipulating game, but they cannot ignore things now.

They're not really willing to listen to me and dismiss everything.

I'm having a tough home life and my father and sister do not wish to listen, nor do they say anything. I can have my own life and do things just like everyone else is suppose to? I'm a man now, does they want to listen? What happens if someone challenges them and says 'but your son/brother' said he is doing this, that, 'why are you reacting negative' say nothing. Maybe I should forget about my sister.

They don't listen, my father's needs, financial needs which I give money every week I catered for. What's he acting timid for to others?

My sister again, I am moving out and approaching women, online, she doesn't say the right things to others.

Online comp sci degree: dismiss that even with proof

First time I said:

Moving out: say where I get money from and dismiss that even with proof, I told everyone and will move out
Going abroad in few months: again they dismiss that
Income: dismiss that

They think I have no income, I'm nothing.

So they have no respect for me and playing me around. I'm afraid they call the authorities with everything, what's their problem, only do it to me.

I do not need her approval, but who is she to play with my life? Get angry when I say I'm moving out, doing this?
I'm moving out within 3 weeks.

I do not know if my sister just lives to please others and she is a narcissist.

This is about my father and sister too and they do not listen to me, my income as well as earning income on the side.

If I want to live in a hotel for one day or go abroad, like my sister can, I can.

I already said I'm doing OLD and seeking for somone abroad, they did not listen and putting me in a circus where all they have to do is tell others and someone asked me for proof and my qualifications, wth-I do not owe anyone or need to be dicated by anyone.
 

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I'm moving out within 3 weeks.

I do not know if my sister just lives to please others and she is a narcissist.

This is about my father and sister too and they do not listen to me, my income as well as earning income on the side.

If I want to live in a hotel for one day or go abroad, like my sister can, I can.

I already said I'm doing OLD and seeking for somone abroad, they did not listen and putting me in a circus where all they have to do is tell others and someone asked me for proof and my qualifications, wth-I do not owe anyone or need to be dicated by anyone.
don't matter if they listen or not, stop talking at all, why waste time on people who don't listen?, also don't share your adress, cut the monetary help and disapear, if they call say you are busy and turn it off.

main issue you still care, you need to stop caring, then you will feel free, also try not to be upfront with info about you to then and anyone close to then
 
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