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What to do when your date randomly texts you late night?

What do you do when your date randomly texts you Saturday night?

  • Text her right back and be ready to go out.

    Votes: 5 26.3%
  • Text her back but be unavailable to see her.

    Votes: 7 36.8%
  • Don't text her back at all. Don't be too available.

    Votes: 7 36.8%

  • Total voters
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bigneil

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So you're dating the girl of your dreams for 3 months but it's not exclusive. She's way too young and pretty but you have been having great sex.

If she randomly texts you at 10PM on Saturday night (and likely wants to go out and party until 5AM with you) what do you do?
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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sat night you should be out having fun, dont text back. if she had texted u early that afternoon, i would of text back, but been unavailable.
 

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tc80 said:
sat night you should be out having fun, dont text back. if she had texted u early that afternoon, i would of text back, but been unavailable.
Women love to make us choose between having them and having their respect.
 
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Strike while the iron is hot gentlemen. If you aren't exclusive and having great sex and she's going out to party - if you aren't having sex with her, someone else is.
 

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Why not tell her you have plans, but then hit her up on the late night tip? Best of both worlds.
 

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According to a recent study, only 1 in 13 people who read this thread voted in the poll. I bet they all checked the results though. No wonder people here can't get dates. They are too indecisive and afraid to have an opinion. They only want to see what others think.

In any event, the close results show this is a dilemma without a clear answer.
 
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bigneil said:
According to a recent study, only 1 in 13 people who read this thread voted in the poll. I bet they all checked the results though. No wonder people here can't get dates. They are too indecisive and afraid to have an opinion. They only want to see what others think.

In any event, the close results show this is a dilemma without a clear answer.
I didn't like the options. I'd go out with my boys, have a great time and then try to get up with her at the end of the night.
 

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I lean towards option #2. I generally WILL have another plan and be unavailable, and tell her so.

However, if I'm genuinely not doing anything that night, and its been a while since I've seen her, I might oblige.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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depends. if i don't have work the next morning then sure. if i have plans already then i wouldn't ditch those plans and try to meet later. it's not exclusive and you're just having fun. so why not? i chose 1 and no i didn't look at results first.
 

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Lack of responses to the poll likely because the possible options are too limited.

Depends on context.

In this case, having seen her for 3 months, I would say respond (but not away) and let her know your plans, find out hers and still keep it open for meeting up.
 

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For the record, I went with option 3 because I was about to crash when I got her text Saturday night.

It didn't hurt. Her next text Monday night didn't mince any words when she wrote: "Can I see you tonight? :)". That time I took option 2 (legitimately was busy). She said she can't wait to see me.

Remember: Love doesn't die of starvation. It dies of indigestion.
 
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