"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to do when your date randomly texts you late night?

What do you do when your date randomly texts you Saturday night?

  • Text her right back and be ready to go out.

    Votes: 5 26.3%
  • Text her back but be unavailable to see her.

    Votes: 7 36.8%
  • Don't text her back at all. Don't be too available.

    Votes: 7 36.8%

  • Total voters
    19

bigneil

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So you're dating the girl of your dreams for 3 months but it's not exclusive. She's way too young and pretty but you have been having great sex.

If she randomly texts you at 10PM on Saturday night (and likely wants to go out and party until 5AM with you) what do you do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sat night you should be out having fun, dont text back. if she had texted u early that afternoon, i would of text back, but been unavailable.
 

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tc80 said:
sat night you should be out having fun, dont text back. if she had texted u early that afternoon, i would of text back, but been unavailable.
Women love to make us choose between having them and having their respect.
 
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Strike while the iron is hot gentlemen. If you aren't exclusive and having great sex and she's going out to party - if you aren't having sex with her, someone else is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why not tell her you have plans, but then hit her up on the late night tip? Best of both worlds.
 

bigneil

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According to a recent study, only 1 in 13 people who read this thread voted in the poll. I bet they all checked the results though. No wonder people here can't get dates. They are too indecisive and afraid to have an opinion. They only want to see what others think.

In any event, the close results show this is a dilemma without a clear answer.
 
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bigneil said:
According to a recent study, only 1 in 13 people who read this thread voted in the poll. I bet they all checked the results though. No wonder people here can't get dates. They are too indecisive and afraid to have an opinion. They only want to see what others think.

In any event, the close results show this is a dilemma without a clear answer.
I didn't like the options. I'd go out with my boys, have a great time and then try to get up with her at the end of the night.
 

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I lean towards option #2. I generally WILL have another plan and be unavailable, and tell her so.

However, if I'm genuinely not doing anything that night, and its been a while since I've seen her, I might oblige.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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depends. if i don't have work the next morning then sure. if i have plans already then i wouldn't ditch those plans and try to meet later. it's not exclusive and you're just having fun. so why not? i chose 1 and no i didn't look at results first.
 

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Lack of responses to the poll likely because the possible options are too limited.

Depends on context.

In this case, having seen her for 3 months, I would say respond (but not away) and let her know your plans, find out hers and still keep it open for meeting up.
 

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For the record, I went with option 3 because I was about to crash when I got her text Saturday night.

It didn't hurt. Her next text Monday night didn't mince any words when she wrote: "Can I see you tonight? :)". That time I took option 2 (legitimately was busy). She said she can't wait to see me.

Remember: Love doesn't die of starvation. It dies of indigestion.
 
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