Hi all,
In the past few weeks I've started speaking to a girl who, as I put it, is "too cool for school." We share the exact same interests, sense of humor, etc. I have more fun talking to her than pretty much anyone I know. In that sense she's amazing. the problem is that I have almost no physical attraction to her whatsoever. While she is by no means the ugliest girl I know, I simply don't find her incredibly attractive. Platitudes about relationships and attraction aside, I really don't know if I want to consider her a gf or just a really cool friend.
She's a sophomore next year; I'm going to be a senior. In normal situations that might not be a big deal (besides the age difference bringing endless ridicule.) However, since I attend a boarding school, it complicates matters greatly.
I know that she's into me -- she's made that obvious -- but I'm not sure what I want to do. On the one hand she's really an awesome person, but if I do go out w/ her I feel as if I'm stuck. In light of senior year coming up, I don't want to be tied down. I've progressed from being incredibly AFC at the beginning of the year to somewhere in the middle now. There are a few girls who I've always wanted to hang out with with who have shown interest, but this term I've had almost no time to do anything besides work.
I also don't want to just ignore the issue because it would eventually have to be dealt with anyway. I also don't want to put her in a situation where I build up so much tension and then just shoot her down, bc regardless of whether or not I go out with her it would suck to not be able to be a friend.
On a side note: I have been gaming right (I think): pushing/pulling, negging, cf, etc. It's been enormously fun, too.
PS: Don't say bother posting if all you have to say is that I'm being AFC and that I should just objectify her and either fvck or forget her.
In the past few weeks I've started speaking to a girl who, as I put it, is "too cool for school." We share the exact same interests, sense of humor, etc. I have more fun talking to her than pretty much anyone I know. In that sense she's amazing. the problem is that I have almost no physical attraction to her whatsoever. While she is by no means the ugliest girl I know, I simply don't find her incredibly attractive. Platitudes about relationships and attraction aside, I really don't know if I want to consider her a gf or just a really cool friend.
She's a sophomore next year; I'm going to be a senior. In normal situations that might not be a big deal (besides the age difference bringing endless ridicule.) However, since I attend a boarding school, it complicates matters greatly.
I know that she's into me -- she's made that obvious -- but I'm not sure what I want to do. On the one hand she's really an awesome person, but if I do go out w/ her I feel as if I'm stuck. In light of senior year coming up, I don't want to be tied down. I've progressed from being incredibly AFC at the beginning of the year to somewhere in the middle now. There are a few girls who I've always wanted to hang out with with who have shown interest, but this term I've had almost no time to do anything besides work.
I also don't want to just ignore the issue because it would eventually have to be dealt with anyway. I also don't want to put her in a situation where I build up so much tension and then just shoot her down, bc regardless of whether or not I go out with her it would suck to not be able to be a friend.
On a side note: I have been gaming right (I think): pushing/pulling, negging, cf, etc. It's been enormously fun, too.
PS: Don't say bother posting if all you have to say is that I'm being AFC and that I should just objectify her and either fvck or forget her.
