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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What to do when she refuses to pay for dates?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
pay for the dates (keep them inexpensively reasonable), c-m on her face (and everywhere else), and keep her on the lower end of your stable until either she straightens out, or you replace her in your stable
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I always pay, at least when I can. I like paying. Men have been providing for women for a million years; it is the natural dynamic. If you were to tell a Feminist that, she would probably slap you.
Of course, I attach a lot of unspoken conditions to paying. I would never take a girl out more than a time or two without getting sex, nor tolerate poor behavior. I am not talking about getting taken advantage of. The women in my life, including the one I am with now, have paid my way plenty of times. They know that I spend it if I have it, but they don't place money as a condition of being together.
If it bothers you to spend money on a girl, don't take her to bars and restaurants. Do something free. Some women will just never be ok with paying their own way. You are never going to win, despite being logically correct. Just buy the poor girl some Chinese food and make her happy.
Of course, I attach a lot of unspoken conditions to paying. I would never take a girl out more than a time or two without getting sex, nor tolerate poor behavior. I am not talking about getting taken advantage of. The women in my life, including the one I am with now, have paid my way plenty of times. They know that I spend it if I have it, but they don't place money as a condition of being together.
If it bothers you to spend money on a girl, don't take her to bars and restaurants. Do something free. Some women will just never be ok with paying their own way. You are never going to win, despite being logically correct. Just buy the poor girl some Chinese food and make her happy.
Accension
Senior Don Juan
It's just it bothers me you seeeing paying to be a pu55y-prerequisite.Bible_Belt said:
Like I see what you're saying that it's nice to take a girl out and make her feel special but doing so just because she put out wouldn't be a valid reason for me.
Even less valid is paying for the girls date and having this idea that now she should put out.
You said you wouldn't take a girl out and pay more than twice if you weren't getting laid.
That's sort of like saying to get laid, buy it. I wish I could fully explain why the provider is generally not the one getting laid but you are intelligent enough to see my point.
Providing for women is a natural dynamic, sure, but she has parents and that guy who's always orbiting her, taking her to the movies for that.
You paying might be nice occasionaly but I see it as putting myself in a dating/provider frame, which leads to the girl making you wait and controlling you with a hole.
I've had girls that have the idea of guys paying, who wouldn't come out unless I paid; that sort of girl you wouldn't want anyway.
I always pay.
It's quite simple, I lead, girl follows. So I set up the plan (i.e. time, place, etc), and so obviously I will be paying, and picking her up.
If you think your dates are too *expensive* then you are the one at fault. Only take her to places you can afford.
Also since the point of dates is to have fun (not to impress her), usually dates don't end up being too expensive anyways.
It's quite simple, I lead, girl follows. So I set up the plan (i.e. time, place, etc), and so obviously I will be paying, and picking her up.
If you think your dates are too *expensive* then you are the one at fault. Only take her to places you can afford.
Also since the point of dates is to have fun (not to impress her), usually dates don't end up being too expensive anyways.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.