"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What to do when running into ex new boyfriend?

bullethead

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Here's the story, I had friends with benefits with this girl for 2 months. I am pretty sure that I was the only guy in her life at that time as she was the only girl. And we mutually liked each other. I caught her making out with a friend of mine and told her that we were over. Long story short, I am over her, and know what to say to her (act like it did not bother me) but what do I do when I run into my friend? He knew I was friends with benefits with her and still pursued her. I feel like punching his face in. What should I do in the situation that I run into him and only him?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why do you want to punch this dude in the face? clearly this chcik your talking about aint worth it. ohhh i get it, she WAS your territory and he now is invading it.

you say you are over it but it seems to me that you are not.

my advice dont do anything. the best revenge is to live the better life. so grow up and be a man of many things.
 

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He's not a friend. He's a sausage vulture, like some random dude in the club. Just dump him by going no contact.

He doesn't deserve an explanation or one bit of your time. Arguing or fighting with him isn't going to bring your girl back. (Not sure you'd want her back after this anyway.)

But also understand that friends with benefits is usually an open type of relationship. You weren't dating per se, so she technically could fool around with other guys. But regardless, you never mess with a friend's girl, so dump this dude's as$. Then forget about this and move on.
 

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I think he violated friend code. I've done it when I was younger and regretted it.

Sh!t happens though and its not really the end of the world or anything. Its not like he kicked your dog
and spit on your mom. Honestly, if you guys are good friends you 2 can maintain your friendship and laugh
about it in the future.

But if he's a total a-hole all the time then i'd reconsider your friendship.
 

bullethead

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thanks guys. I do not want to be friends with this guy. But the hardest part would be avoiding him because in January the ex and this guy will be in the same building as me. I am going to run into him and the ex a lot. I am afraid that I might do something stupid when I see either of them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bullethead said:
thanks guys. I do not want to be friends with this guy. But the hardest part would be avoiding him because in January the ex and this guy will be in the same building as me. I am going to run into him and the ex a lot. I am afraid that I might do something stupid when I see either of them.

If you haven't done something stupid yet, I can't imagine how you'll do something stupid when you've had a month to cool down.
 

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Dude just ignore them both. No eye contact, nothing, like you never even knew them. It's the holidays dont ruin yours. If he greets you solo don't be dramatic it makes you look weak. Give an over the top fake ass generic greeting with a thumbs up and be on your way.

On a side note if you do feel you have unresolved issues with the guy. Pick the time and place, don't just wait to run into him in front of people like that..
 

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J Roc said:
i find it funny when guys fight over sluts.
fighting over sluts is just another afc trait. add it to the list.
 

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ehhhhh? why are you even mad??? you said you guys were "friends" with benefits not into a relationship... you liked to fvck her, she liked getting fvck by you, nothing less, nothing more. or did you want to be in a relationship with her?? YOU knew she was a slut because chicks cant have sex many times with the same guy without feeling anything unless they re sluts.. even sluts have a dude they "like" the most so yeah you knew...

if it was me i wouldn't even care if she was kissing my friend, she is a slut friend that i fvck here and there no biggie, maybe it is just me because im already use to a chick nailing my friends and I and we just laugh it off when we see her, I know some guys might call me disgusting but again there is nothing better than big breast, a nice round ass and a girl screaming, moaning and sweating of pleasure in your bed , so yeah when i don't have anything to do i will call that "friend" with benefit and fvck her. Again she was not your girlfriend nor your wife, fighting over a slut is one of the biggest AFC's mistake on this planet.. A man was created and felt lonely, then god gave him a woman as a distraction to his loneliness......don't care if the bible is right or wrong but i agree with that message
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lolololol. Half of you guys are being homos. She's not a slvt, get a life. In a friends with benefits relationship it is fine to sleep around. If OP doesn't care about the other friendship then fine. Don't be a retard and fight over a girl when there are 3 and a half billion others you won't have too. Seriously, derp. That should make you feel like a huge chump, go for ten other girls. Finally, just smile like you've won the lottery. Let him see how awesomely happy you are, because of how awesome life is.
 

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demezel said:
ehhhhh? why are you even mad??? you said you guys were "friends" with benefits not into a relationship... you liked to fvck her, she liked getting fvck by you, nothing less, nothing more. or did you want to be in a relationship with her?? YOU knew she was a slut because chicks cant have sex many times with the same guy without feeling anything unless they re sluts.. even sluts have a dude they "like" the most so yeah you knew...
I agree with this. If you were just FWBs, you had no claim on her. No more than if she was just a piece of meat to be passed around.
 

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I know I had no claim on her. It just hurts when seeing someone who was giving your a bj in the morning making out with some other guy at night.
 

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bullethead said:
I know I had no claim on her. It just hurts when seeing someone who was giving your a bj in the morning making out with some other guy at night.

Why does this idea hurt? Make a laugh about it by thinking that she didn´t brushed her teeth before kissing him!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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