What to do when girl puts herself down...

[Mr.NoGame]

I have never known how to react to this situation...

This scenario has popped up many times for me, I just don't know how to handle it.
The most recent was an off-hand remark I made about her appearance, positive of course, when discussing my job.

Me: The guys in the back go nutz when a hot girl walks through the door.
Her: Haha, im not hot
**So I'm thinking to myself... This is a trap! and basically panic.
Her: Curly hair is out

What am I supposed to do here? I've read on the boards that you aren't supposed to compliment a girl too much... and if I jokingly agreed with her... that'd make me an ass! I also know that she spends a **** load of time straightening her hair every morning..

 

[bachelor]

Id say something like ur not bad... with a grin on my face haha

 

[Sir Juanalot]

I always tell any girl i'm with that negative talk about herself is not allowed when i am with her. I always try to lift up and make better, although some women just love putting themselves down all the time, and no matter how much you try, its just pointless. I next those kinds of women.

 

[Obsidian]

i agree with bachelor...I hate people who fish for compliments, so the best I'll usually offer as a response is a counter to their insult

"ahh, you're not that ugly/fat/dumb/etc," maybe with a smile to keep it light-hearted if I'm in a good mood

 

[Gangster Of Love]

You have to specific as to the context of the situation. The hoter she is, the more she will focus on her inperfections, specially during intimacy. Is she is hot, and her clothes hair, and make up are perfect all the time, and she mentions it, you know she's fishing for compliments.

If she gets self-concious during intimacy when naked around you, you know she is just feeling vulnerable and it is not her fishing for compliments. This is when you reasure her and loose the fear to tell her something nice.

If you are a newbie, or someone who just doesn't get enough play from attractive women, you might not have the experience to tell the difference between these situations and will use a one size fits all approach. If you want to become the kind of guy that makes hot women feel connected to you, learn how to get good at reading and understanding women even before they can understand themselves.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

In this example you could have redirected the conversation back to how the guys react to hot women.