"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have never known how to react to this situation...

This scenario has popped up many times for me, I just don't know how to handle it.
The most recent was an off-hand remark I made about her appearance, positive of course, when discussing my job.

Me: The guys in the back go nutz when a hot girl walks through the door.
Her: Haha, im not hot
**So I'm thinking to myself... This is a trap! and basically panic.
Her: Curly hair is out

What am I supposed to do here? I've read on the boards that you aren't supposed to compliment a girl too much... and if I jokingly agreed with her... that'd make me an ass! I also know that she spends a **** load of time straightening her hair every morning..
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I always tell any girl i'm with that negative talk about herself is not allowed when i am with her. I always try to lift up and make better, although some women just love putting themselves down all the time, and no matter how much you try, its just pointless. I next those kinds of women.
 
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i agree with bachelor...I hate people who fish for compliments, so the best I'll usually offer as a response is a counter to their insult

"ahh, you're not that ugly/fat/dumb/etc," maybe with a smile to keep it light-hearted if I'm in a good mood
 
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You have to specific as to the context of the situation. The hoter she is, the more she will focus on her inperfections, specially during intimacy. Is she is hot, and her clothes hair, and make up are perfect all the time, and she mentions it, you know she's fishing for compliments.

If she gets self-concious during intimacy when naked around you, you know she is just feeling vulnerable and it is not her fishing for compliments. This is when you reasure her and loose the fear to tell her something nice.

If you are a newbie, or someone who just doesn't get enough play from attractive women, you might not have the experience to tell the difference between these situations and will use a one size fits all approach. If you want to become the kind of guy that makes hot women feel connected to you, learn how to get good at reading and understanding women even before they can understand themselves.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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In this example you could have redirected the conversation back to how the guys react to hot women.
 
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