"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MooseGod

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I'm new on here, so hi everybody...

Anyway...I guess I'll start with a little background. Got out of a 1 1/2 year LTR a few months ago, (she wanted a ring...dodged a bullet there) and realized that while I won't miss the nagging, the whole not getting booty on a regular basis kinda sucks, so it's time to start getting to work. I met this extremely interesting and attractive chick through one of my roommates a couple days before classes started. We hit it off great from the first time we met, and had a couple of really good conversations (you know, politics, theology, philosophy, not just normal BS chit-chat)...plenty of IOIs, I didn't really try to come on too strong because the bud who introduced us told me she was dating some guy who lives in another town, but she never mentioned anything about a boyfriend...then classes start and I haven't really talked to her since, however she called me up to buy some wine for her and her roommates (she's 19, I'm 21) which kinda pissed me off because I felt a little used, but being the nice fellow I am I just rolled with it. Anyway, haven't really run into her on campus or at parties in the past couple weeks and she's not much of a Facebook addict. What should I do to try to get something going again? Or is it a lost cause?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MooseGod said:
I'm new on here, so hi everybody...

Anyway...I guess I'll start with a little background. Got out of a 1 1/2 year LTR a few months ago, (she wanted a ring...dodged a bullet there) and realized that while I won't miss the nagging, the whole not getting booty on a regular basis kinda sucks, so it's time to start getting to work. I met this extremely interesting and attractive chick through one of my roommates a couple days before classes started. We hit it off great from the first time we met, and had a couple of really good conversations (you know, politics, theology, philosophy, not just normal BS chit-chat)...plenty of IOIs, I didn't really try to come on too strong because the bud who introduced us told me she was dating some guy who lives in another town, but she never mentioned anything about a boyfriend...then classes start and I haven't really talked to her since, however she called me up to buy some wine for her and her roommates (she's 19, I'm 21) which kinda pissed me off because I felt a little used, but being the nice fellow I am I just rolled with it. Anyway, haven't really run into her on campus or at parties in the past couple weeks and she's not much of a Facebook addict. What should I do to try to get something going again? Or is it a lost cause?
This site really isn't about "how to get the only girl I'm interested in."

It's more about improving your game as a whole. Of course you should talk to her again. But your window of opportunity has already passed. You'll probably have to open a new one.

Read up on this site. There's plenty of good information.
 

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Dude I wouldnt buy her alchohol unless you want to get arrested shes under age, if you get caught your screwed, believe me no chick like that is worth it. Honestly it could work out I believe, it seems like she likes you from what you said.
 
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